To all the Virgo sign types (born between August 23 and September 22) of the world: if you’re ambivalent about your perfectionistic ways, it’s no wonder. On the one hand, your attention to detail means that your work life tends to run in a very efficient way. But on the other hand, your personal life sometimes suffers from your tendency to ignore the forest while hyper-focusing on the trees.
Virgo, when you’re at your best. . .
. . . your fine traits make you a desirable addition to any workplace—you’re hard-working, dedicated, detail-oriented and have a profound service ethic no other sign can touch. Your awareness of what is wrong leads to a very natural ability to put things right. You are motivated to establish good routines and healthy habits—you excel at putting systems into place that run smoothly on their own. And your service-oriented attitude puts the attention squarely where it needs to be—on the customer.
. . . and at your worst. . .
It’s not news that those same traits that you express so well at work can become problematic in your private life. But at what point does meticulousness turn into perfectionism, criticism and maybe even nagging? It may be hard for you to tell because you’re accustomed to the voice of the critic inside your own head, constantly driving you. And your tendency to be in service can lead to self-abnegation and invisibility, leaving you feeling that all your good efforts go unnoticed. When the desire for perfection exceeds the desire to give, Virgo goes off the rails.
Handling Your Virgo Nature
Like Boxer, the horse in George Orwell’s Animal Farm, your credo might well be, “I will work harder!” But that won’t solve every problem. Sometimes what’s called for is to soften and allow others to serve you for a change. This is what you secretly long for, but it’s hard to find competent help, as you well know. Delegation is a skill you absolutely must develop, and that involves finding competent-enough people and patiently training them in the things you do so well—then allowing them to do those things, even if imperfectly, without criticism from you.
Clueing Others In About You
As a Virgo, your tendency is to see what needs fixing, then to take responsibility for it and forget to ask for help. Believe it or not, the people around you have no idea how hard this is on you. Practice being vulnerable by asking for what you need and then letting others give it to you. They would actually be happy to tell you all about the things you do right and how deserving you are. They’d be happy to remind you that everything is not your job, so Virgo: take a break, take some credit, take a vacation. Come back refreshed and renewed, ready to enjoy the supreme satisfaction of the pursuit of excellence.
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