How To Have A Happy Marriage—Juno Tells All
Recently I’ve posted about Venus and how your Venus sign tells what you long for in relationship and how you act when you don’t get it. Today I’m concentrating on Juno.
Introducing Juno, Goddess of Committed Relationship
If you’re wondering why you’ve never heard of Juno, that’s because Juno is an asteroid in the asteroid belt that sits between the orbits of Mars and Jupiter. The asteroid belt contains thousands of asteroids, but only the 4 largest are in common use by astrologers (Juno, Vesta, Pallas-Athene, Ceres). Juno represents committed relationship or marriage and the sign she occupies in your chart will tell what kind of person you look to marry and what your marital expectations are. Juno will also tell whether you’re “the marrying kind.” It’s possible to get a very complete picture of the ways marriage will be easy or hard for you by looking at Juno in your chart. If you don’t know where Juno is in your chart, you can use Astro.com to make your chart and find out.
How Literal Is This Marriage Thing—Does Juno Mean Marriage Only?
Um, NO. Juno is about committed relationship. If you are in a committed relationship with someone you cannot or will not legally marry (for example, if you’re gay & cannot get married), things I’m saying about Juno still apply to you.
What follows is a very brief (and of course incomplete) set of interpretations for Juno in the signs:
Juno in Aries expects that marriage is an adventure. This Juno wants to experience freshness and newness everyday, a continual rebirth and renewal of commitment. If this Juno cannot speak the truth and experience excitement, she will wander.
Juno in Taurus wants and expects unflinching stability. This Juno will stand by the partner through good times and bad, and expects the same in return. Cooking with the partner and having a financially stable marriage will support this Juno’s commitment.
Juno in Geminineeds a quality of lightness in marriage. She doesn’t like to be tied down and is prone to living a double life unless all her attention can be engaged. Her best marriage involves lots of communication, both talking and listening.
Juno in Cancercan get very domestic because this Juno intuits that a well-feathered nest and raising children are the ultimate reason for marrying. She also expects that marriage is a place for an ever-deepening emotional connection. She’s a caretaker.
Juno in Leo expects that her marriage and her partner must look good. She tends to marry radiant, larger-than-life types who can be domineering behind the scenes. If you ever embarrass her in public, be prepared for the cold shoulder afterwards.
Juno in Virgo is as selective as Venus in Virgo, and twice as critical. She will serve the partner endlessly, hoping to improve them. Shaping and molding the partner are tempting but this Juno is much better off turning her perfectionist talents toward meaningful work instead.
Juno in Libra wants to be on a level with the spouse and experience true, balanced partnership. She’s always willing to sit down and negotiate or talk things out, as long as it doesn’t get too messy or dark. When they do, she needs harmony before going deeper.
Juno in Scorpio expects that marriage is a deep merging of two-in-one, mind, body & soul and she will consider it her right to know everything possible about the partner before and after marrying them. Choosing the right partner in the first place is crucial.
When a Juno in Sagittarius person is happily married, s/he feels that marriage is a freedom, not a limitation. For this Juno, marriage needs to involve unending growth and expansion—if there’s not room for that, marriage is not worth committing to.
Juno in Capricorn takes marriage with the utmost seriousness. She sees marriage as a social contract in which both partners agree to support each other’s reputation and keep each other looking good. Humiliate her and you’ll lose her (considerable) devotion.
Juno in Aquariuswould rather not get married at all, quite frankly, and will only be attracted to someone unusual enough to grab her attention. She is aware of the political ramifications of marriage and doesn’t want to give up her power or freedom.
Juno in Pisces dreams of the ultimate partner, which can get in the way of living with a real human being in the here-and-now. She may have trouble giving herself completely to marriage but seeing it as a spiritual connection makes commitment & fidelity stick.
Go To Bed As Venus, Wake Up As Juno
If you’ve read all the articles in this 3-part thread, it should be pretty obvious by now how having Venus & Juno in incompatible positions might spell some relationship challenges. There comes a time in every relationship of duration when you ask yourself, “does this relationship have what it takes to last?” It’s as if you flip from the lover-seeking side of you to the side that assesses mate material and it can happen overnight. For many people, this question pops up somewhere between 4 and 6 months into dating someone new. Up to that point, the Lover in you was happy enough to keep you sticking around this person. Now the Mate in you pops up and gets you looking at more serious concerns.
Do Your Expectations for Marriage Conflict With Your Romantic/Erotic Needs?
Most people have some kind of challenge around making the transition from love to commitment and that’s because love and commitment are actually two different archetypal functions within human personality. Juno shows what you need in a committed relationship, but Venus shows what you need in order to fall in love and to maintain a romantic, erotic connection over time. The ultimate situation occurs when you can have it all—you experience a deep, committed connection with someone which can last a lifetime and inside that connection you feel wildly and passionately in love. This is a wonderful state and it is attainable by everyone, no matter how challenged Venus and Juno might be in your chart and no matter how fiercely they might be challenging each other. It’s simply a matter of figuring out all your needs and honoring them all, without sacrificing one for the other.
Own Your Juno
What I said in my recent Venus post applies here too: own your Juno, rather than projecting her qualities onto a mate. Become the mate you need. This will make you more marriageable and will make married life sustainable for you. Then you can relax into a lifetime of happy marriage with exactly the amount of depth or freedom or emotional bonding or passion or excitement that you want. The interpretations I’ve listed above are just a smidgen of what Juno has to offer in terms of really understanding your marital needs.