The symbol for Pisces is two fish, swimming in opposite directions, an apt metaphor for the ambivalence that characterizes those born under this sign (between February 21 and March 22). Pisceans are the most ethereal and otherworldly people in the Zodiac, dreaming more about what could be than living in what actually is. Visionary and prone to flights of fancy, Pisces folks add a compassionate and artistic dimension to our world. But when are you, Pisces, being an inspired dreamer, or just a cosmic escape artist?

Pisces, at your best. . .
. . . you are endlessly compassionate to every living being in the world. You are capable of a deep, egoless transcendence and tend to look for and value a spiritual connection with other people instead of a solely materialistic one. You don’t get caught up in all of the earth-bound issues that ensnare most people’s focus: money, status, looking cool, etc. Your values are more transcendental than material. This is because you can easily become anyone, and you can fit with any type of partner or become anyone’s friend. It is because of this chameleon nature that you feel so connected to everyone in the universe, because you can see a part of yourself in everyone you meet.

…and at you’re worst…
Feeling like you’re the next Mother Teresa? Well, a transcendental nature can run both ways. In fact, it can backfire into sheer escapism–yup, that vibrant inner fantasy life of yours can manifest into less desirable behaviors such as binge-watching Netflix and finishing another bottle of wine. You can wrap yourself up in a really cushy comfort zone, but it often results in you being unfocused, wishy-washy, and go-with-the-flow even when the flow ain’t going anywhere! Sometimes, it’s hard for you to be the driver in your own life, and you view everything fatalistically and superstitiously. You can be melodramatic and self-sacrificing to a fault, playing the martyr instead of accepting the consequences of your actions and taking initiative. Because you morph so easily, you sometimes forget to ask for what YOU want, leading to unsustainable relationships loaded with drama.

Handling your Pisces nature
Take measures to fully occupy your life by taking it in YOUR own hands. Don’t play the victim by lamenting about how everything bad magically happens to you. Don’t just stagnate in the cushy comfort zone you can conjure for yourself—actively harness your imaginative powers, shaping your visions into realities you can live, instead of just dream about. Get lots of REM sleep, solitude away from others’ demands, and unstructured time where you don’t need to accomplish anything in particular—or watch your escapist tendencies permeate into more serious parts of your life, causing things to fall apart. Use your feeling of connectedness to all living beings to do volunteer or charity work. This will make it possible for you to devote your spiritual nature to giving to those who can give back, instead of sinking it into family and friends who are losers and who just drain you.

Clueing others in about you….
…by telling them that you need solitude—a quiet, peaceful place where you can escape from life’s demands. Insist on taking time for yourself, because your kindness is a valuable resource that should not be depleted. Learn from every experience where your boundaries have been crossed or you’ve been taken advantage of. Set healthy boundaries and let other know what they are. Hold to them in a loving way. Build a spiritual practice into your life—you’ll be amazed by how it sustains you. And let all your friends know that, while you may seem like a follower, a shapeshifter, a morpher, that you do infact lead—but not in material ways. Your leadership is in the spiritual, the eternal realms, which is where you really live. When plugged into the divine and into a moral sense that sustains you, you are a guiding light for everyone around you.

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Saturn in your chart points down a career path that can satisfy you and bring you success.

Knowing your Saturn sign orients you, motivates you and gets you unstuck. 

Do you have Saturn in Pisces in your astrology chart?

If you do, then you need March’s free teleclass from Pandora Astrology.

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In it, you’ll discover:

  • What’s behind Saturn in Pisces’ greatest fear—and crowning achievement
  • More about apt career directions for you if you have Saturn in Pisces
  • Pisces’ Mission Orders—and how fulfilling on them can bring success and satisfaction

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You have Saturn in Pisces if you were born in these dates:

  • 2/14/1935 to 4/25/1937
  • 10/17/1937 to 1/14/1938
  • 3/23/1964 to 9/16/1964
  • 12/15/1964 to 3/3/1967
  • 5/20/1993 to 6/30/1993
  • 1/28/1994 to 4/7/1996

If you don’t have Saturn in Cancer, you can find out where YOU have Saturn here.

Neptune in an astrology chart represents the Dreamer, the Visionary, the Artist in all of us. Neptune takes 14 years to pass through each sign of the zodiac, gathering all individuals born in that time period* under the banner of a shared dream, a vision of otherworldly magnificence and beauty. Pisceans of each generation are particularly captivated by their generational dream. Here are the generational dreams and dates of people alive today:

Neptune in Virgo:
Neptune entered Virgo in the end of 1928, returned to Leo briefly in the spring of 1929, then moved into Virgo to stay in July 1929. Neptune in Virgo natives share a practical dream of efficiency and prudence. It’s no accident that these are the Depression babies, born into a time of scarcity, following a time of (Leonine) excess. Hardworking, frugal, they are also sometimes called “The Silent Generation.”

Neptune in Libra:
Neptune left Virgo for Libra in October of 1942. It slipped back into Virgo briefly in April of 1943, then returned to dwell in Libra in August of that year. Neptune in Libra is a beautiful dream of love, connectedness and world peace. This is the Baby Boomer generation, the hippie flower children who came of age in the 1960’s, who burned their draft cards and said, “Give peace a chance.”

Neptune in Scorpio:
This is my own generation, born as early as December 1955, (with a break while Neptune slipped back into Libra in March-October 1956) and proceeding through most of the sixties. I like to say this generation’s dreams isn’t so much a beautiful dream as it is a beautiful nightmare of intimacy and intensity. Called Generation X, (almost as if to say, “after those Baby Boomers we have to name these kids something—but what??”) this group’s dream is intimate connection, no matter into what dark places it may lead us.

Neptune in Sagittarius:
In November 1970, Neptune entered Sagittarius, birthing individuals whose vision is an expanding dream of global unity and world connectedness. This is a generation of ramblers, travelers, wanderers and world citizens, asking “Why can’t we all get along on this blue and green marble?” Called Gen Y, this generation is a small one, but deserves a better name than Y. This generation invented the Gap year (when you travel for a year between high school and college).

Neptune in Capricorn:
Neptune first flirted with Capricorn in January of 1984, but returned to Sagittarius briefly from June to November, moving into Cap for real in late November 1984. I like to call this generation’s dream “A dream of empires.” It’s a serious dream of effectiveness and authority. This generation has been dubbed “the Millennials” by William Strauss and Neil Howe—and they can’t wait to take charge.

Neptune in Aquarius:
Neptune left Capricorn for Aquarius in the last few days of January 1998, returning for a brief stint in Cap from late August 1998 through most of November that year. By December 1988, Neptune’s journey through Aquarius was well underway. This generation are children and teens now and theirs is futuristic dream of progress and technological advancement. I like to call them “the Tech Generation.”

What is your generation’s dream? And what is your relationship to that dream? How can you advance the dream of your generation?

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* I live in the USA, so my understanding of generations occurs in that cultural context.

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Do you love a Pisces?
Are you a Pisces in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Pisces in your chart (or its ruling planet, Neptune) will result in distinctly Piscean experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Pisces OR if you have Venus or Juno in Pisces, this article is just for you.

Are you a Pisces in love?
Who was that masked man? Who was that mysterious woman (didn’t she belong to a French lieutenant a long time ago?) Oh, it’s just you, Pisces, International Person of Mystery. Do you ever feel like you’re just too deep for the people in your life and that it’s a rare person who gets you—and a rare day when you get yourself? It’s because you are not just one person, but many possible people. There are so many directions that call to you that it’s hard to choose. This applies to relationships as well and you may find that you like to try out people. While you may seem impressionable and more like a follower than a leader, it’s really just that you’re on a longer, more late-blooming path than your peers. There’s a lot to figure out in your life, and in yourself, and it’s going to take some time.

How to manage your relationships as a Pisces. . .
Date people who are good for you. Look hard at your dating history and ask yourself, did I date that person because I knew I could be indispensible to them? Because I could shape myself to be what they needed and because I wanted to be needed? Every time you do that, Pisces, you need to ask yourself another, harder question: Was that relationship good for me? You have a unique ability to match the person you’re with and to give them room to be themselves and to support their will. But where in all this do you find your own will? What direction do you want to go? As you age, you become more sure of yourself and make better choices. And here’s another thing: learn to end your relationships concretely, instead of just drifting away, hoping to avoid a confrontation. Practice clarity.

Do you love a Pisces?
Then you must be feeling equal parts yearning and frustration. Why does your Pisces dream so much and do so little? And how did you get caught up in the perpetual search for the real person inside? You must love a mystery. This is a good thing because your Pisces’ puzzles will take decades to solve. Strong marriages have been built on less. Here’s a key: be gentle with your Pisces. When you are harsh, s/he will just float away. When you are neglectful, s/he will fade and seem to disappear. Instead provide loving, supportive structure and above all, believe in your Pisces. If you do that in times when your partner can’t, you will win entry to the inner sanctum. And that’s a downright magical place to be.

If you have Venus or Juno in Pisces in your chart, the chances of you dating Pisceans is very high.  How to handle the Pisces you love. . .

  • She’s a late bloomer. For Pisces, life begins at 40. Let her meander around and try things to discover what fits. She may not really settle into herself until her 30’s are ended. Cultivate her in the meanwhile—the end results will be spectacular.
  • Don’t be taken in by his fantasy of who you are—or who he is. Indulge it, but don’t believe it (do you get the difference?).
  • Encourage her to practice some form of art. It almost doesn’t matter what form, as long as it suits her and she sticks with it.
  • When you must deliver criticism, keep it brief and surround it with loving faith in him and the understanding that he’s doing his best.
  • Her spiritual life is important and if you want to nestle into her heart, relate with her in the spiritual domain. Sharing that means a lot to her.
  • Does your Pisces seem unimaginative? Then something has gone terribly wrong and he may also be quite depressed. To help, begin by gently inquiring about his dreams. Persist at this. At first he may not know what his dreams, his visions are. But when you finally crack open this Pandora’s box, you’ll find he’s a veritable Walter Mitty of fantasies, dreams, imaginings and fancies. Look through this stuff with him as if he’s 8 and showing you his treasure box. Celebrate each rediscovery. Support him to choose one dream and pursue it. Then step back and watch him blossom. This could take the rest of your lives together. And doesn’t it sound nice?

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  • Why your Pisces can flip from super-attentive to unfindably elusive—and why your ability to believe in your Pisces’ dreams can make or break this relationship
  • What your Pisces needs in order to sink into committed relationship with you
  • Signs Pisces is most compatible with, and why
  • And if you are a Pisces, you’ll learn the benefits you bring to every relationship you’re in and the relationship-killers you absolutely must avoid

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Squeezing the Sponge image 

Are you a

“highly sensitive”

Neptune person?

 

 

You know you’re one if:

  • You feel everything more than other people seem to.
  • It’s hard to shut out the world.
  • You have a rich imagination—which leads to inspiration but also to escapism.
  • You take on other people’s problems too much—and don’t know how to stop.
  • Caring for those you love is so important that you habitually let your own life go to rack and ruin so you can be there for them.

If so, I’ve got something really nice for you.

Who needs this:
Pisces/Neptune types.

Astrologically this means you if you have a strong Pisces or Neptune (ruler of Pisces) influence in your chart.  That might mean you have the Sun in Pisces, the Moon in Pisces or Pisces Rising.  It might mean you have Neptune in any aspect at all to your Sun or Moon, or you might have Neptune Rising or at your Midheaven.  If you have more than one of these, you pretty much qualify as a Highly Sensitive Person.

Psychologically this means you if you resonate with the first paragraph of this blogpost, whether you know anything about your astrology chart or not.  And if you do resonate with this, I’ll bet your chart has a strong Neptune or Pisces influence.

Why you need it:
Your sensitivity to the emotional states of others comes from your way of being porous, like a sponge.  You are impressionable—any atmosphere you place yourself in will affect you and get inside you.  You may then mistake it for a part of yourself and take it on as if it was yours.  When you live with or work with someone who generates a lot of negative emotions, this can be disastrous.

Every human being generates a kind of emotional bubble around themselves.  Some call this your “aura.”  It’s a kind of energy field.  When we relate with others, we connect with them and merge bubbles to create a shared bubble for the duration of the interaction.  Your Pisces tendency is to equalize the pain inside the shared bubble.  So if someone comes to you looking for sympathy, you will merge with them and try to ease their burden by taking their pain (of whatever kind: anger, grief, resentment, self-destruction) into your own bubble.  You sponge it right up.  It’s REALLY important to squeeze the sponge out periodically, because that negativity you’re feeling might not even be yours.  And if you get doses of negativity every day and never squeeze it out. . . well obviously that’s the cause of any number of emotional and health complaints you may have.

Here’s the meditation:
Squeezing The Sponge Meditation

How to do it:
Get in a comfortable place, sitting in a relaxed, supported position or lying down at a time when you’re not likely to fall asleep.  If you can be in a natural setting, so much the better.  Listen to the recording and follow the instructions it gives your imagination.  At the end, give yourself a minute or two to stretch and begin to slowly re-enter your day.  Do the meditation every day, at least once a day, for 30 days.

Make it a practice
You need to “squeeze the sponge out” on a regular basis.  If you’ve never had a practice like this before, begin by doing it every day, perhaps even several times a day.  After a while (weeks perhaps, or maybe months), you won’t need it as often and you may know the meditation by heart.  In that case, you won’t need the recording anymore and you’ll be able to do it faster.  Then you can do it on public transit or while waiting in line at the bank.

Turning your sensitivity into a gift, not a curse
You’re a natural healer.  You heal through compassion and other people tend to feel their burden is lifted just by being around you.  You are capable of truly understanding other people, even in places where they feel deeply misunderstood—which means you have an in with them.  You can also forgive (not everyone can).  These are beautiful traits and you may have, out of reaction to your sensitivity and out of the need to protect yourself, closed these abilities off.  If you learn to let go of the negativity you soak up, you can live life in the emotionally open way that’s natural to you, like a flower soaking up the rain and sunshine.  You can lead with the imagination, experience deep gratitude at being alive, and move on to enjoying life more and drowning in it less.  A lot less.

Notice how your life changes
Using this meditation can change your life, but not in ways that are dramatic or directly causal.  If anyone is tuned into subtleties, it’s you, so begin to pay attention to the subtle changes in your life that are already beginning to occur after the very first time you do this meditation.

Notice how changes happen in ways that don’t seem connected to this meditation, but simply unfold naturally in the fresh atmosphere it creates in your life.  Your environment will change and with it, yourself.  Watch yourself begin to really occupy your life.  Move in.  Make it yours.  Be a person.  Become you.  You don’t have to lose all the other selves you could be.  Let them roll around in your imagination.

Reclaim your intuition.  Has your intuition been drowned under all the negativity you’ve absorbed?  Have you become calcified in an attempt to protect yourself from that negativity?  It’s time to let all that go and reclaim your intuitive knowing.  This meditation will help.  It’s my gift to you.

Change your world for the better
Pisces/Neptune person, you are the Visionary, the Dreamer and the Artist.  The Force is strong with you.  Allow the fruits of your imagination to seep out into the world and create good.  This is more satisfying than anything and living in a way that protects you from the pain of others actually liberates you to do more good.  Please do, because the world needs you. . . and your dreams.

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You already know that Pisces (February 19-March 21) is the sign of the fish.  This is no accident.  In some ways, Pisceans are like ocean creatures, in some ways they are like the ocean itself.  We’ve all got at least a little* of this sign in us and managing your primal watery nature can be a challenge, Pisces, so here are some tips for the Fish in all of us:

The ocean is the primal symbol for the imagination—and Pisces, you are deeply in touch with your imagination.  You are a visionary.  Your imagination is a rich, lush place that you should visit often and draw on liberally—because there’s always more there and you will never run out of fancies, dreams, imaginings, daydreams, visions and fantasies.  Write them down.  Make them into art.  Share them with people—especially those around you who have forgotten how to dream.

This connection with the ocean blesses Pisceans with oceanic awareness.  It’s a sort of global intuition, which comes from the fact that fish feel in every direction.  Fish don’t use their eyes as much as they use their whole skin surface.  As a Piscean, you feel “vibes” or vibrations exactly as a fish does.  You live in 360-degree awareness, responding to events all around you, whether you know it or not.  This intuition is Pisces’ main superpower.

Your global intuition gives you a special sensitivity to your environment.  It spreads your awareness out, improving your peripheral awareness but making it hard to concentrate your attention and also making you easily influenced by your environment.  Place a Piscean in the wrong environment and watch that person disintegrate, while a Piscean in the right environment will thrive enormously.  Create good environments for yourself, Pisces—it’s worth the effort.

Pisces, when people accuse you of being flaky, remember that by dwelling on land, you’re out of your element all the time.  Have you ever thought about the world of a fish?  A fish is surrounded and supported by the water it lives in all the time while humans live on the ground and are subject to gravity.  A fish never falls down—and has no corresponding desire to build.  The famous Piscean laziness is a natural outcome of belonging in a world without ambition.  It leaves your average zodiacal Fish with an enviable ability to relax and go with the flow.  This means, Pisces, that you are supremely equipped for the magical state we call “flow,” because it’s your home.

Pisces, your imaginative nature makes you highly empathic.  You can easily imagine yourself walking a mile in the other person’s moccasins and your gentle ocean waves can quietly get right inside a person.  You intuitively know how to bond to others, but beware of sucking others in or of unconsciously crossing their boundaries, because not all ocean currents are benevolent.  You could be someone’s undertow and they could get lost in you.  Once you’ve gotten your tendrils of awareness and affection into all the little corners of someone’s life, when you pull away, they may suddenly feel empty, bereft, lost in an empty void that used to be filled with a loving presence—you.  Being loved by you is special—bestow it wisely.

* You don’t have to be a Pisces to be a Piscean type.  That’s because you could be an Aries (or any other sign) yet have a bunch of planets in your chart in Pisces—enough to tip the balance and leave you feeling more like Fish than Ram.

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Solutions for Water-Gone-Wrong

In my recent post Personality Flaws of the Four Elements I described ways the 4 Elements can go wrong, each according to its own nature.

How To Know If You’re Drowning In Water
Water is arguably the hardest element to get right, because in the modern world our capacity to feel is misunderstood, derided and ignored.  Many of us grow up with a poor understanding of our emotions.  Your Water has gone wrong when:

  • People around you call you a “drama queen.”
  • Your sensitivity has you attempting to control everyone around you so you can feel better.
  • You overreact to events around you and cannot separate what actually happened from how you felt about it.
  • You absorb other people’s feelings so easily that you lose yourself.  This may make you prefer to avoid people which is a shame because your powers of empathy are enormous.
  • You are filled with bitterness, resentment and other feelings that have long gone unexpressed.  You habitually repress them because you don’t know how to let go of them.

Solution One:  Balance Water With The Other 3 Elements
If your Water is distorted, the other elements can help restore balance.  Fire’s self-assertion is a wonderful foil for Water’s tendency toward self-sacrifice.  When you’re lost in Watery feelings and can’t get out, try cutting straight through the bullshit.  Fire says, “Things are really not as complicated as they seem.”

You can count on Air to bring in logic, rationality and a factual approach.  Air helps you get out of the feelings and become more dispassionate—which can be very helpful when you realize you’ve become over-involved with somebody who is taking advantage of you.

Earth’s practical concerns form a helpful check-and-balance to Water’s subjectivity.  Earth reminds Water that overwhelming feelings must be balanced by the need to feed, clothe and shelter oneself and one’s family.  Water says, “I care about myself and others,” while Earth adds “. . . and I prove it by making myself useful.”

Solution Two:  Emphasize Healthy Water
Expressing Water in a healthy way can allow negative expressions of Water to fall away naturally, with ease and grace.  You might call this “Water-Fu.”  Here are some ways to try it. . .

  • Notice your intuitions.  Validate them.  Use them.
  • Your feelings are there to connect you with other people.  Get good at noticing what others feel and what you feel.  Develop healthy emotional boundaries and enjoy deep relationships with those you feel sympathy or empathy towards.
  • Find or create places in your life where you can afford to feel fully, to express your feelings and to be as sensitive as you really are.  Hang around people you can be your true self with.
  • Practice healthy self-care, which is not the same as being emotionally armored nor emotionally over-exposed.  When you take care of yourself, others do not seem like a drain.
  • If you are preoccupied with negative feelings, learn to let go of them.  Focus on the positive, uplifting things in your life.  Nurse joy instead of anger.

The Four Elements are an incredibly rich vein of astrological knowledge of which this article series only scratches the surface.  Using the elements alone, even a novice can gain tremendous insight into herself and other people.  I hope it inspires you to learn more about the elements, about astrology and about yourself.

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This has been part 5 of a 5-part series on the 4 elements.  The other parts can be found here:
Personality Flaws of the 4 Elements
Is Fire Burning You Up?
Has Earth Grounded You—Permanently?
Does Air Have You Lost In A Cloud?
Are You Drowning In Water?

Of the 3 water signs, one is Cardinal, one is Fixed and one is Mutable.  When a zodiac sign is Cardinal, that means it sends its elemental energy in a directed way.  If it’s Fixed, then it consolidates and contains its elemental energy while the Mutable signs disperse and diffuse their elemental energy.  What does this mean for the 3 water signs, Cancer (Cardinal), Scorpio (Fixed) and Pisces (Mutable)?  Looking at physical symbols for the water signs is an excellent way to understand them and their relationship to each other.

Cancer, The Mountain Spring
Cancer, the Cardinal Water sign is the first to appear in the zodiacal order.  It represents directed water.  This means moving water, symbolized by a mountain spring, born out of the earth, the freshest of waters and the Water sign with the most drive.  Cancer’s Cardinality carries fresh water to ecosystems that need it, nurturing and growing life.

Cancer combines Water’s fluidity with Cardinal motivation, drive and leadership.  Cancer is the water sign with energy and direction.  Cancer has focus in a way the other two do not.  Think of a busy mother (this is, after all, the mother archetype) involved in her energetic nesting activity or think of a fierce mama bear, defending her cubs.  Think of a mother duck, lining up her chicks and leading them to water for the first time.  This sign has force, motivation and purpose to it.

Scorpio, The Lake
Scorpio is the second Water sign and it’s Fixed.  Imagine that Cancer’s mountain spring has flowed downhill and gathered momentum until it’s become a rushing river.  Now imagine all the force of that river dammed into a lake and you have Scorpio.  Another way to think of Scorpio is to look at a glass of water.  It looks placid and still but actually, the contained liquid is exerting a tremendous amount of force on all sides of the glass.  If there’s a crack in the glass anywhere, the water will find it and press through.  That’s Scorpio.

Scorpio combines the fluidity of Water with Fixed strength, solidity and continuity.  Scorpio has amazing staying power, sometimes obsessively so—in fact, Scorpio has the capacity to use obsession and compulsion to its own advantage.  And Scorpio’s tremendous sensitivity, though often experienced as a problem, is actually an advantage because it is the root of Scorpio’s ability to find weaknesses in the enemy or in the problem that can be used to overcome it.

Pisces, The Vast Ocean
All waters eventually lead to the sea. Pisces, the Mutable Water sign, combines fluid Water with flexible, ever-changing Mutability.  Mutable Water is best symbolized by the vast oceans, filled with eddies, currents and tides.  The ocean is ever-changing and always moving, but never moving in a given direction.  In the ocean, change is the constant.  And so it is with Pisces.

Pisces is the only water sign that doesn’t need a shell to protect itself.  Cancer hides in its Crab shell while Scorpio hides behind a cool exterior (occasionally coming out to sting with its Scorpion tail), but Pisces can defend itself while remaining soft.  This is because Pisces is adept at shapeshifting and mimicry.  How can you attack something when you don’t know what it is?  Pisces meets confrontation indirectly (as do all the water signs) and preserves itself by slipperiness and evasion.  Pisces is the ultimate moving target.

Which of these do you resonate with most?  Are you an energetic, bubbling spring, flowing downhill, gathering force as you go?  Or are you a still-waters-run-deep lake, sensitive to all that touches your surface?  Or are you the huge, ever-shifting ocean—permeable and connected to everything, remaining soft and open to experience?

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Why Are Pisceans Chameleons?
Neptune types* have the tendency to be chameleons, to “match energies” with others, or become what others expect or want them to be.  This enables them to blend in anywhere they want to.  A Piscean can be the life of the party or fade into the woodwork, as they choose, and may appear very differently to others from one meeting to another.

What makes a child of Neptune this way?  Pisceans are impressionable and, being water, will reflect or show the shape of whomever they are around.  When a Piscean is young, this trait can be out of control, so that the Piscean has very little sense of himself as an individual.  When he is with others, he is discovering the parts of himself that match the people he is around.  When he is alone, he may not be sure who he is at all.

Late-Blooming Pisces
As a Piscean matures, she will find that her choice of companions is crucial to her identity cohesion and self-esteem.  If she’s smart, she’ll choose companions that are good for her, that bring her a truer sense of herself, rather than pulling her in too many conflicting directions.  This is inherently a challenge for a Pisces, since she feels like she could be anyone.  As she ages further, she will discover that she really is someone unto herself, and she finds the solid core of herself to identify with, be and express.  But this takes time.  It starts coming together really well only after age 40.  And if by then too many escapist habits are in place, it may never happen at all.

Neptune is a profound god to bow to and requires much of his children.  His teachings take time and experience to unfold.  Neptune’s natives need time to mature and are late bloomers.  This is normal and natural for them.  Their peak will be in midlife.

Why It’s Actually A Good Thing
The upside of the Piscean impressionability is that Pisceans are naturally expert in establishing rapport.  They do this by intuiting another person’s behavior-, thought- and feeling-patterns and then matching those patterns.  This makes for brilliant therapists and healers, great coaches and teachers and absolutely stunning actors.  Pisces takes mimicry one step further and can actually, for a time, become the person they are imitating.  How do they do it?

A Pisces type will bring to the fore whatever part of himself matches whoever he is talking to and deemphasize parts of himself that don’t match.  In doing so, he can take the form of an ideal person the other is dreaming of.  A Piscean usually doesn’t realize he is doing this and frequently his motivation, at least initially, is enthusiasm for the other person.  Another part of his motivation is to avoid the other person’s judgment and to enjoy and share the pleasurable feeling of merging with another by understanding them from the inside.  This creates rapport and engenders trust in the other person, because the Piscean is willing to walk a mile in their moccasins and in fact may already be doing so without being asked.

Loss Of Self And Its Repurcussions
Unfortunately, this is exactly the way a Pisces person can lose themselves in others.  Taken too far, this matching and merging creates a false sense of connection.  The connection is false because it is based on a temporary arrangement of personality parts, and will often result in a backlash when the Pisces (belatedly) discovers they feel stretched out of shape and decides they’ve had enough.  Then the Pisces will snap back, sometimes strongly, angrily asserting their selfhood and boundaries, not realizing they at least partially caused the problem.  On other occasions, the Piscean withdrawal is gentle, a mere fading away that is not noticed until it is complete.

This causes unexpected casualties.  To a person who has been relating with a Piscean, the whole process can feel as if he is standing on the beach and the Piscean is a large, seemingly gentle wave which flowed up and over them, sending runnels into every corner, crack and crevice of their personality and filling them up.  That person who is experiencing Piscean rapport, understanding and compassion may feel seen and understood in a deeper way than ever before in their life.  Because the process of Piscean merging is so gradual and so unspoken, it’s easy for that person to take the Pisces for granted.  When the Piscean pulls away, it can leave the other person feeling bereft and tugged strongly off-center.  The Piscean may perceive this and feel sad but also feel that there is nothing they can do about it while still maintaining their own center.

Many Pisceans hurt the people closest to them with this vague, gentle way of merging and then floating away, leaving a trail of disillusioned lovers behind them.  It happens a lot in youth, and then Pisceans figure out what they are doing and stop, or at least do it less.

Live Consciously And Choose Your Companions Wisely
Certainly it is hard to be a Piscean, but that’s no reason to be a victim of your own nature.  Being aware of these tendencies is half the battle.  The other half is to be responsible in how you handle your connections with other people.  Go into each situation knowing that you’re a chameleon and be ready to show more of yourself, not just the parts you think others will like, approve of and resonate with.  It is uncomfortable to hold to your center against the tide of other people’s disapproval and disappointment, but it is a skill necessary for building identity and becoming a coherent self.

Choose companions you want to become more like and allow your friendships to shape you into the person you choose to be.  Along the way you will learn to be that person, and to be relaxed, unapologetic and unafraid about it.  You will never lose your ability to gain rapport with others, but the day will come when you no longer do it unconsciously or compulsively, but do it out of choice from a calm, centered self.  On that day, instead of being a little boat tossed on the ocean, you will at last be the ocean, with all its power and vast beauty.
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* Neptune types are people who feel Piscean because they have Neptune, Pisces’ ruler, placed strongly in their chart.  You don’t have to be an actual Pisces (sun sign) to feel like one.

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Few things explain the dualities and contradictions inherent in the Pisces nature like the story of the Two Fish.

Tale of the Two Fish
Once upon a time, there were two fish.  Perhaps they were brothers, perhaps they were even twins, but for whatever reason, these fish were linked.  There was a cord running from the mouth of one fish to the mouth of the other.  Neither could go far without his brother accompanying him.

One of these fish was visionary.  He spent his days gazing upstream into the realms of future possibility.  Occasionally he spotted beautiful castles that he wanted to occupy, communities of fish he wanted to join, and dreamed of himself as central and chief among the forces of good in the future.  One day he became so inspired that he took off and began swimming upstream, against the strong current.

The other fish was lazy.  He liked comfort and he indulged the dreaming of the first fish as long as it felt good, but had no interest in doing the work necessary to actually build that beautiful castle or go out and meet those interesting fish or become even the tiniest bit of his potential.  He preferred to stick his head deep into the mud, seeking food and avoiding the light of day.

The activity and struggle of the first fish was disturbing to the second fish.  “What on earth are you doing?” asked Fish Two.  “I’ve seen something tremendous,” said Fish One, “and I must swim towards it.”  “But it’s so much work!” said Fish Two, “I’d rather stay here.  Fantasy was better than reality.”  The two could not agree and that would have been fine, except that they were linked, like two parts of a single person.

The fish needed a resolution to this problem, so they swam to visit the Wise Old Sturgeon.  “Ah yes,” he said, “I have seen this before.  Can’t get anything done and can’t rest either, can you?  I know what you need.”  He then whispered Piscean secrets into their ears.

Here is what the Sturgeon said:
Acknowledge that the urge to stagnate is within you.  Greet your lazy side and welcome it.  Give it a nod and a wink.  If you don’t, you will never attain the life you dream of.  Get plenty of rest, relaxation and time for doing nothing in particular.  Now you’ve fed the second fish, which is important, because if you don’t, he will thwart you.

Then, feed the first fish.  Feed him on dreams, fantasies and beautiful imaginative creations.  Let yourself daydream at least a little each day, on purpose.  For what is a Pisces without their dreams?  And in each dream, look for the seed in the center of it that is doable.  Because the first fish demands that you move toward your visions of the ideal and that you participate in them, you must live them out in some way.  If you find that seed and grow it, then your dreams do not have to take you away from the world you share with other people, away into escape.  Instead, you bring your dreams into the world and make it a better place for yourself and everyone.  This is the ultimate way to fill the Pisces soul with satisfaction and happiness.

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Why do Pisces types lose things?  You might as well ask why the sun shines.

Pisceans, you are the dreamers and visionaries of the world.  You feel more at home in the rich and lovely realms of your own imagination than in the physical world we all share.  You may find it frustrating how often this leads you to be distracted and dreamy and not very in touch with the material.  Sometimes you might even resent the sheer solidity of the everyday world, and its unforgiving hardness.  Certainly your dreams are better than the reality we all share, but (fortunately or unfortunately) you need to be able to function in the workaday world in order to bring your dreams into manifestation, so others can experience their benefits too.  It’s annoying and wrong, but there it is.  And how many times does this need to acclimate to the physical world show up in the form of losing your keys?  For some Pisceans, it happens almost daily.  For others, who have gotten a grip on this seemingly-simple problem, it happens less often.

Clever readers who do not lose their keys will be able to benefit from the suggestions below by substituting any easily-lost object, such as one’s car, train of thought or husband (where did I leave him?).

So here, for the benefit of all Pisceans, are a few suggestions as to how to keep hold of important objects.

  • Force yourself into the habit of always putting your keys in the same place when you get home.  Every.  Single.  Time.  No.  Kidding.  This will feel incredibly oppressive at first, but will soon become a comforting habit, allowing you to pay attention for the minimum time allowable and then quickly return to whatever fantasy you were involved in.
  • Put a small beeper or sound location device on your key ring, so that whenever you lose your keys, you can make them beep.  Here’s the sort of thing I mean.   While you’re at it, microchip your pets also—now there’s something you really don’t want to lose.
  • Become emotionally attached.  Put something cute or meaningful on your key-ring.  (For the non-Piscean types out there who may be reading this, it finally explains all those silly key-rings that people use—it’s because it makes them harder to lose.)
  • Decorate it in a way you like.  If you enjoy crafts, this is a great time to break out the hot glue gun and the sparkles.  If you are not a crafty person, it’s still easy to put your personal stamp on something with color.  Use your favorite colors, so that the keys please your eye every time you look at them.  When you decorate a thing, you put some of yourself into it in an act of ownership that will bond you to it.  Your pride in the object will make it easier to keep close to you.
  • Figure out what this frequently-lost object symbolizes to you and why you might be resisting bonding to it.  Is there some responsibility or obligation attached to it that you feel oppressed by?  Once you’ve dealt with the aspect of it you are trying to evade, it will become much easier to avoid losing the object.  A Piscean in escape mode is a very powerful being, and can sabotage his way out of anything with very little effort.  Pisceans show a mastery of self-sabotage that is exceeded only by some Scorpios.
  • Make a grounding cord to your keys.  Pisceans can be quite psychic.  Your imagination is your greatest tool and learning to use it deliberately is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your life.  Take a moment to imagine a thick, strong cord (could be a rope or chain) running from your navel to your key-ring.  Attach the cord strongly to your keys.  Imagine seeing it (notice its color), feeling it as if it’s an extension of your body (in the same way you can feel through the body of your car when you drive it) and hearing when it’s in place and working (a tone, a bell perhaps?).  Every time you lose your keys, try using the cord to find them.  When you do find them, do the cord visualization again, to strengthen it.  Over time, finding your keys will become easier and eventually you won’t lose your keys at all anymore.

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