Human Being is walking his inner landscape. He is at the docks. There’s a pier that extends out into the water, into the fog. There he can just see the shape of a massive sailboat, rising and falling with the swell of the waves. Waters swirl and eddy. Neptune and Saturn are there. Saturn is working on the boat. Neptune is looking over some maps. They point him toward the gangplank. Human Being comes aboard the boat. Over Neptune’s shoulder, Human sees a patch of the map: “Here be dragons.”
Saturn: Ah, now that Human Being has arrived, we can shove off.
Neptune: You be in charge of making sure the boat is sound. I’ll steer us toward interesting visions.
Saturn: That sounds better than the reverse!
Neptune: Yeah, I’m not the best at safety.
Saturn: And I’m not the best at imagination.
Human: Good division of labor. Where are we going?
Neptune: Currently we’re set to go to the Island of Dreams Come True.
Saturn: Is that the place C.S. Lewis talked about in The Voyage of the Dawn Treader?
Neptune: The very same.
Saturn: I seem to recall that was a scary place. Dreams are sometimes nightmares, and if you have no control over your imagination, you can be led off into paranoid fantasies and get lost in a sea of fear.
Neptune: Too true. The ocean of imagination is vast and contains many things—not all of them are safe and not all of them are happy.
Human Being: If you don’t mind, I’d really like to stick to the happy, non-scary possibilities.
Neptune: We don’t care where we go. You’re the one who decided.
Saturn: This is your Dream Boat, and you’ve got it set to autopilot. It’s been this way since you were in high school. We’re going where you always go. And apparently, it’s not the happiest place.
Human: Can I change that?
Neptune: Of course. You can create anything you want in this magical time.
Saturn: If you harness your imagination.
Human: I don’t know what you mean.
Neptune: Are all your fantasies fearful ones? Do you spend your time asking yourself, “What if…?” Do you perpetually imagine what might go wrong and then try to fix it, instead of imagining what might go right and how to get there?
Saturn: If you indulge paranoia, we’ll be heading to Nightmareland in short order.
Human Being: What if what I really need is a rest? Can we please just take a pleasure cruise?
Saturn: If you really deserve a rest period, better take one, but you could get so much more out of this.
Neptune: The possibilities are endless.
Saturn: But it will take psychological work to make them actually happen in a tangible way.
Neptune: It can be a beautiful fantasy.
Saturn: It can be your worst nightmare.
Neptune: You decide.
Neptune: Manifestation is powerful now. Whatever you can imagine, you can have. You can manifest positive things–big, powerful ones, even if you have a habit of expecting negative things.
Saturn: If you are willing to do the inner work.
Human: You mean I have to overcome my own fear?
Neptune: No, you don’t have to do anything. You can choose to overcome your fear. And not just fear—doubt, remorse, cynicism, all the negative feelings that stop you from building something bigger out of your life. But we won’t force you to do it.
Saturn: You can stay unconscious if you want to.
Neptune: You could just go to sleep every night, lulled by the rocking of the boat.
Saturn: But then you’d come out of this journey untouched.
Neptune: Your life unchanged.
Saturn: Nothing manifested, nothing built, nothing achieved.
Neptune: Just a nice relaxing boat ride.
Saturn: It seems like a waste. We thought we’d tell you what was possible, so that if you choose to sleep through it, at least it was your choice.
Human: Gee, thanks. So what do I do now?
Neptune: Keep your thinking positive—
Saturn: —and pragmatic—
Neptune: Focus on how you’d like your life to be. Dream into that.
Saturn: And practice letting go of fear.
Neptune: Especially if fear has become a habit.
Saturn: And trim your dreams down to what is doable.
Neptune: That may make them smaller. . .
Saturn: . . . but easier to make happen. Look, here’s your berth.
Neptune: Why don’t you relax and think about it?
Human Being climbs into his bed, stretches out, is lulled by the waves and soon drifts into sleep. Neptune and Saturn smile at each other and tuck Human in.
Saturn: What will Human do with this opportunity?
Neptune: Guess we’ll just have to wait and see.
Saturn and Neptune will be traveling in a harmonious trine in Water signs from October of 2012 to July of 2013. Read another installment here: Neptune and Saturn Launch a Bubble of Useful Magic Energy. What will you manifest during this magical time?
Today is a milestone in this year’s phenomenal triple conjunction of Jupiter, Chiron and Neptune in Aquarius. Today Jupiter and Neptune form a perfect conjunction for the third and final time. This month is our last chance to take advantage of the magic these two make together and they really want us to know that. Here’s a snippet of their conversation:
Jupiter and Neptune are perched atop their favorite cloud, watching the world go by.
Jupiter: Hey, Neptune, have you noticed that it’s a really jaded world out there?
Neptune: I had in fact, noticed that. Nobody seems to believe in anything anymore.
Jupiter: Why do you think that is?
Neptune: Actually, I think it’s your fault. Advertising, your monster-child, has jaded them and they are so glutted with unfulfillable promises that they can no longer hear the siren song of true magic calling them. MY siren song.
Jupiter: Oh, I really don’t think I’m the only one to blame here.
Jupiter: Definitely not. You, after all, are always trying to get people to believe in ridiculous, ungrounded, unprovable metaphysical principles. People are tired of being psychologically overextended. They want reality.
Neptune: BUT they want reality to go their way.
Neptune: Yet they’ve forgotten that being able to imagine the impossible, which is my gift— (Neptune takes a little bow)
Jupiter: —and having enough hope to carry through the effort necessary to prevail despite the impossibility of the task, which is my specialty— (Jupiter bows back with pretend gravity)
Both in unison: —is exactly how reality can be bent to human will!
They do a little dance, then collapse in laughter.
Jupiter: Do you think anyone took notice?
Neptune: Probably not.
Jupiter: Maybe we’d better try another method.
Neptune: Ok, what do you have in mind?
Jupiter: I’m thinking of a Peter Pan moment.
Neptune: I know exactly the one. I’m with you.
Together they lean over the cloud and address themselves to all of humanity, in booming-god tones loud enough to be mistaken for a thunderclap.
Both in unison: DO YOU BELIEVE IN FAIRIES, PEOPLE? DO YOU? If so, you’d BETTER START CLAPPING! Because right now, this very moment, is the one in which you can choose to make a miracle. IF, that is, you want one. So there.
The two of them roll back onto the cloud and listen intently for a moment. Then, just when they were about to give up, they hear it: the clapping, coming from all over Earth, of people who believe in fairies and some other people who maybe don’t exactly believe in fairies but think it would be a better world if we had a few. Neptune and Jupiter are filled with delight and dissolve into a fit of giggles. With each giggle a fairy is born and flies off to do good in the world, for all the people who clapped, and even for a few who didn’t.
This article is part of a series of articles on Power Tools of Manifestation, which begins here.
Detachment—a power tool of manifestation. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? You have to pour your passion into this thing and then let go of attachment to the outcome. Funny thing is, it works.
Remaining attached to the thing and how it manifests will only slow the process down. Perhaps so much so that it slows to a crawl and the cynical part of your mind can congratulate itself that manifestation does not work, as you secretly thought, and you can go back to the same old hard reality you were used to. How very comfortable.
It is a human tendency to worry at the future like a dog worrying at a bone. When you find yourself doing this, just stop. Take your attention off the fussing, the worrying, the negative possibilities. If breaking this habit is hard for you, try this experiment: make a deal with the part of your brain that worries. Agree to worry concentratedly for a few minutes a day. Do that, then after your allotted few minutes, stop. Don’t tolerate worry between your ears during “worry off-hours.” Nip it in the bud. Ignore it and eventually it will go away.
Worrying about whether a thing you want will come to pass and exactly how it will come to pass and whether or not it can come to pass . . . all of this is irrelevant and only slows the process down. It is useless to hold off on pouring hope and passion into a thing simply because you cannot imagine how it will happen. The universal mechanism behind manifestation has every resource in existence at its disposal in bringing forth the thing that you want. You don’t. Why not leave this in the hands of the universe, instead of your own puny mind? Instead, make the bold leap and love the thing you want passionately, no matter how absurd and impossible it is. Then let go, detach and let the universe do the rest.
In a previous article I told you about the necessity of passion for the thing you are manifesting. Today I’m telling you about the necessity of detachment. How to reconcile the two? That’s where the art is. Manifestation is essentially an emotional maturation process. The more you learn to powerfully wield your emotions, the more powerfully you can create. This means learning to have emotions, detect your emotions, correctly interpret your emotions, channel your emotions, sort out and eliminate negative emotions and intensify positive emotions. It’s a tall order.
Once you stop caring how the thing looks or what path it takes to get to you, it will come to you faster, and from unexpected quarters. Those quarters will be unexpected because you had no expectation about them. And what a blessing that will be, to discover that miracles do happen.
This article is part of a series of articles on Power Tools of Manifestation, which begins here.
Feelings are the Engine of Manifestation
Manifestation requires passion, plain and simple. When there’s something you are trying to bring into your life, you need to feel great in your body while imagining this thing. Feelings are the engine that brings the thing into existence, and the more powerfully you can have feelings and the more powerfully you can rouse positive feelings, the more powerfully you can manifest the life you really want.
You need to be able to feel great in your body. This means getting to know your body and all its feelings, good and bad. Many people are so shut down that only the strong sensations register (hatred, fear, romantic infatuation). And for many people negative feelings are stronger than positive ones. It helps if you can become sensitized, so that small feelings (like delight, admiration, and the shiver of intuition that tells you when to avoid something or someone) catch your notice too. Most people live in reaction to their feelings like a boat tossed on ocean waves. To manifest consistently, you’ll have to learn to be in control of your feelings, to let them flow when you want to and transform them into something better when they are ruling you. If feelings are the engine, most people’s engines require a tune-up and better care.
Creating Negatively and Creating Positively
Fear and hatred are feelings and create as readily as love and joy. You can create with love or fear, but whatever you create will be permeated with the same feeling you saturated the visualization with. If you want to be happy, saturate your manifestations with happiness; if you are content being fearful, saturate your manifestations with fear. If you are comfortable with anger, you’ll easily saturate your manifestations with anger and create more situations to be angry about. Fueling your engine with negative feelings creates a downward spiral in which negative feelings create negative realities, which in turn create more negative feelings. Fueling your engine with positive feeling creates positive realities, which create more positive feelings. Fear creates fearful situations which create more fear. Joy begets joy. Manifesting is a spiral which will go forcefully in whichever feeling direction you fuel it with—and you can change direction whenever you like, simply by changing the feelings you are focusing on.
Here’s an example. There’s someone in your life that you just hate. It’s someone you are forced to interact with periodically, and you dread it. Your dislike of this person is so strong it’s palpable. When you think of them, your body becomes saturated with bad feelings. You are continually anticipating the next unpleasant encounter, even as you hope to avoid it. And then, when you actually do meet up with this person (which happens far more often than you’d like), of course it goes badly and you walk away with your dislike strengthened and validated. And feeling a little bit good because you were right about that person. Again.
So how much of that experience did you create? And how much of it will you create again next time? If we assume that the whole world is a dream inside your own head, then we can say that you created the whole experience from start to finish. This is an annoying but useful point of view, because it gives you responsibility for everything you experience, and with responsibility come power and control. This point of view implies that there’s something you can do about this kind of situation, some way it can be prevented in the future. Which is true, because there is.
Turn It Around in Two Days
Creating from negative feelings like anger and hate is a habit most of us have. It’s hard to break this habit, but it can be done, and it requires becoming aware of your feelings and your self-talk. Try this: spend a day being as aware as you can of everything you feel and everything you tell yourself about how you feel. On the first day just observe. Resist the temptation to act on what you are learning about yourself. Just watch what goes on inside your own head that first day.
Separate your thoughts and feelings. Notice which of the things you are experiencing are thoughts and which are feelings. Thoughts happen in words or concepts. Feelings are usually wordless and often are accompanied by physical sensations. If you hear yourself talking to yourself in your head, turn up the volume and start really listening to what you are saying. For example: “Oh there’s that awful woman again, I just hate her.” Notice the feelings you are having, the words you are saying to yourself about it all, and also notice the person herself. She is not your thoughts or your feelings about her. She is her own self, with her own life, her own thoughts and feelings, her own perspectives and perceptions. Separate these things.
On the second day, you are ready to start making changes. Observe yourself again, but this time, start to question your process. “I hate moon pies.” Why do you hate moon pies? Notice the feeling of hate. Where does it dwell in your body? Is it in your gut? Your throat? Your chest? If instead of moon pies you’d like to be offered soft pretzels, ask yourself what you love about soft pretzels. Take your focus off the dreaded moon pies and bring it to the beloved soft pretzels instead. Imagine yourself enjoying the pretzel and the good feelings of that. Do you love the saltiness, the softness, the warmth? Focus on what you love and then notice the lovely feeling that fills you. Then focus on that feeling itself. Strengthen it. Expand it. Blow it up. Ah, how I do love soft pretzels! Then hold it for at least 30 seconds and up to 5 minutes. You may be amazed at how fast soft pretzels will appear. Not only that, but at some point, probably much later, you may realize in retrospect that moon pies have not come around for quite some time. In delight, you can go on forgetting about the anguish of moon pies and focusing on the joy of soft pretzels.
Naturally, you cannot change a lifelong habit in just two days. However, two days is long enough to see the habit for what it is, and to begin breaking it. In two days you can get enough reward for changing that habit to motivate you to continue breaking it. Eventually the old negative-focus habit will be broken, replaced by a positive-focus habit and your ability to manifest will accelerate. It will become much, much easier to create larger, more challenging things faster. Most people need time and practice to grow into this.
The Fear-of-Disappointment Trap
When you haven’t had much practice, deliberately holding positive feelings can be downright uncomfortable. For many, hope is an uncomfortable feeling-state to be in, because it implies the possibility of disappointment. It is all too easy to grab onto that possibility of disappointment and make mental pictures of all the ways what you are hoping to create can go wrong. But once you head down that tunnel you are creating the very thing you are hoping not to create, and fueling it with disappointment and fear. This is a process that happens almost instantaneously for many people, especially those who are habitually cynical. Some folks will seek out and rehearse again and again all the things that might go wrong out of a mistaken notion of preventing negative outcomes by “thinking them through.” They have no idea that they are actually creating the negative outcomes they’d like to prevent and no idea that they are actually being ruled by their own fear and behaving like an emotional robot that can only run one program (a fearful one). They believe they are being logical. Then when what they want fails to appear, it’s only what they knew would happen. Then they get the side-benefit of being right and having accurately predicted what would happen. But getting to be right is a poor consolation prize compared to getting what you want. Such people tend to develop a chronically cynical or complaining tone of voice.
I’m not talking about ignoring possible consequences or deliberately cultivating a false naivete. Believe me, I’m in favor of exploring and preparing for all possible contingencies, including negative ones, but after a certain point it’s important to stop pouring negativity into what you are creating by obsessively going over and over negative possibilities in your head. And when it’s become a habit, you no longer have control over it.
If you are willing to be wrong and to be surprised by what the future can hold for you, if you are willing to feel hope and focus on that hope despite the magnetic pull of disappointment, you can break this habit. Clamping down on hope to avoid disappointment will only hamstring you. You’ve got to let yourself feel the hope, despite how uncomfortable it might sometimes be.
Create From Love and Passion
The best way to create powerfully is to passionately love the thing you are creating. If you do not love the thing itself, find something about it or something about having it that you do love. For example, I do not love parking spaces with a passion, but I do love the rush of validation I get when I find one, especially in difficult circumstances. So instead of focusing on the parking place itself, I focus on the moment of pulling into the parking place I’ve found, right in front of my destination, and the rush of joy that happens when I realize I did it. Again.
If you are having difficulty believing that what you want to create is possible long enough to have positive feelings about it, you must be able to rouse a good feeling which approximates the feeling of having what you are creating. Any good feeling, no matter how small, can help you, as long as you focus on it. Look for an aspect of what you are creating that you have absolutely no conflict about. Focus in on that and fill your body and being with that good sensation. Imagine the thing in as many sensory modes as possible (sight, sound, smell, taste, touch) and place yourself inside the picture. Imagine it all from inside it: be there, in the future, with things as you want them. Go back to the good feelings. Notice all aspects of the good feelings. Roll them around on your tongue, so to speak. “Wow,” you may notice, “this feels good about it, and that feels good too, and so does that. . .” Dwell on the good feelings. Remember: they are the engine which makes the manifestation go. Hold them very purely as long as you can, for at least 20 seconds and up to five minutes. Do that every day. Then watch the thing begin to coalesce in your life, right before your eyes.
Why Is Your Imagination a Power Tool?
Daydreaming is important, not just a waste of time. More than that, it is a skill, which can and should be developed. If you are serious about manifesting your desires, you must be able to create detailed, realistic internal sensory experience of the thing or state you want. What you are imagining must feel real and possible, and it should feel good to generate these imaginings.
Your Own World Between Your Ears
Your imagination is your domain. Nobody can tell you what to do there. In the world of your imagination, anything is possible. You can dream freely, uninhibited by the hard “facts” of the world outside your own head. Through the medium of your imagination, it is also possible to make those dreams into realities. But first you have to make the dreams as vivid as possible. “Vivid” means alive or full of life. Infuse your dreams with life.
Using Your Inner Senses
It helps if you use as many sensory modes (sight, sound, touch, etc.) as possible. This comes with practice. If you imagine what you desire on a daily basis, you will become more and more able to easily generate full-bodied, waking dreams, bursting with sensory experience. Most people come to this practice with natural ability with one or two sense modes. Then you will want to fill in your skills by developing the sense modes that are missing.
Learn to see clear, vivid images of what you are creating. What will your life look like when you have what you want? See it, in living color, larger-than-life. Make the colors brighter, get out of black and white. Practice by looking at a bright, easy-to-perceive color with your open eyes. Then close your eyes and try to reproduce the color in your mind’s eye. At first you may succeed for just a second or two. Practice holding it for longer time periods, until you can imagine scenes in color for minutes on end. If you get distracted, let your mind wander a bit, then bring your attention gently back to what you are doing and focus again on seeing color and shape. When you are not meditating but are simply out enjoying life, notice color and shape. This will give you something to play with next time you are meditating.
If sound is an unfamiliar sense mode, try imagining sounds. Let music run in your head. See if you can run through your favorite song, start to finish. Find out how many of the musical details of it you can remember and replicate in your inner ear. Then listen to it and hear how close your approximation was.
Another aspect of the sound mode is inner self-talk. Do you have a voice inside your head that tells you what is possible and what is not? Try adjusting the volume on that voice. Is it a male or a female voice? Is it a literal recording in the voice of one of your parents? Suppose it’s your father saying, “You’ll never amount to anything!” Suppose then that you speed it up so it sounds like Alvin the Chipmunk. It’s a little hard to take that kind of message seriously when it sounds like a chipmunk. Suppose it’s a teacher saying, “What a good student you are!” Turn up the volume. Play the recording over and over. Let it drown out other, more negative, recordings. It may take years to play positive messages as many times as you’ve heard the inner negative messages, but eventually that old stuff will fade.
Now go back to your dream. Ask yourself: What sounds, noises or inner self-talk are associated with what I am creating? Replay them in your head. Talk to yourself, internally or aloud. Encourage yourself, as if you were a beloved child and the voice is that of a loving, supportive adult who believes in you. Talk yourself into the dream, and don’t tolerate voices that speak fear to you, whether they are inside your head or outside of it.
The bodily sense mode has two parts: one is kinesthetic, or inner-body and the other is touch, or outer-body.
Touch is easy. How would the world feel to someone who had the life you are creating for yourself? Would you wear silk? Can you imagine running your hands through piles of money? Have you test-driven that car you want—do you know the feeling of its steering wheel in your hands? These are the building blocks of manifestation. Become familiar with these sorts of sensations, run them over in your mind frequently.
The kinesthetic mode is a little more complex. It covers internal body sensations like balance, weight, gravity and “intuitive hits.” The feeling of swallowing is kinesthetic. So is a stomach-ache. Menstrual cramps are kinesthetic. The feeling of satiation after a good meal is kinesthetic. So is the sensation of balancing on a bicycle. And the feeling of the hair standing up on the back of your neck is kinesthetic.
Ask yourself how having the life you want will feel to your inner body. Will you be more balanced? More grounded? Will it feel solid in the tummy, instead of like the butterflies you feel when you are imagining something scary or something beyond your reach?
Smell and Taste It
If you like, and if it’s pertinent, add in the other sense modes: smell and taste. Does having what you want mean gourmet dining? Fine chocolates? Is there a food, a taste or a scent that symbolizes for you this thing you are creating? What is the “richest” scent you can think of? Lavender? Roses? Cheesecake? Try weaving that into the dream so as to create a tapestry of experience in which you are surrounded with congruent, enriching sense data.
Create a Signature Moment
After you have gotten some practice with all of the sense modes, try creating a signature moment around something you want to manifest. In the future, I am wealthy. How do I know I am wealthy? I look out the window of the bedroom of my fabulous home and see a beautiful sunset over the bay. I hear the sounds of my children playing. I feel a sense of strength and groundedness in my belly. I feel that I am wearing silk pajamas and look up to see that it is six in the evening, but I am still in pajamas because I am retired, yet the sounds of my children tell me I am still young. I feel my leg-muscles pleasurably burning because in the dream I have the leisure to run every morning. It is all happening in one sense-moment and all my senses conspire to tell the same story and point to the same reality.
A signature moment can be brief but also contain lots of meaning and back-story, all compressed into that moment. And you can draw on it anytime you have a few minutes free. Just a few minutes at a time, several times a day over weeks and months can move you powerfully along the road to what you want.
What Advertising Does That You Should Do
The main purpose of all advertising is to hijack the imagination of the viewer. Notice how ads use attractive models with warm, fond tones of voice. Everything is larger than life. Colors are bright. Objects are large. Faces are in close-up. The camera pans in quickly on the object being advertised. You may not be able to smell things on TV, but look how the steam rises! That burger must taste good.
The advertiser is trying to create your dream for you, on his own behalf. He knows that it is a very short trip from imagination to action and thus to reality and so he pumps up your imagination in hopes that it will lead to action, i.e. you buying the product. And preferably as quickly and as often as possible. Your imagination is yours—take back control of it! Why should McDonald’s get better use of your imagination than you do?
Put Yourself Inside the Dream
It’s best to place yourself inside your vision. When you imagine a thing or a lifestyle, see-feel-hear the aspects of that. Make it big, bold, beautiful, colorful, like advertising. Then get into the picture. Don’t just see scads of cash—see them in your hands, see numbers in your bank account, touch them with your own fingers, look at the dead presidents on the bills. If you find yourself slipping out of the picture, climb back inside.
Your Lizard Brain Doesn’t Know The Difference
Why is it important to do all this? Why do sense modes matter? Because your hind brain, your lizard brain, does not know the difference between imagination and reality. And your lizard brain is what will create the thing you are manifesting. Once your hind brain gets used to the idea of you having what you want, it won’t be long before it happens.
Your hind brain also does not comprehend time. All times are now to the lizard brain. Therefore, place yourself in your dream and tell its story as if it’s happening now. Your hind brain will get busy manifesting it, especially if it starts to feel more real than the negative things in your life that you’re hoping to let go of.
Practice, Practice, Practice!
These skills may seem elusive and hard to measure, but really all that you need to do is practice. Just try it. Then try it again. Then keep trying it until you find suddenly that you are now dreaming in color when previously you only dreamt in black and white. Suddenly you are hearing symphonies in your head where previously you could barely hold a tune. And then—voila! Suddenly your external life responds to the internal shift: it becomes sweeter, richer, brighter than it was. And you are the one who made it that way.
In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill calls this “burning desire” and he’s right when he says it’s absolutely essential.
When you are out to create something, the thing you desire must feel thoroughly good to you, on every level. It has to feel good all through your body. If any part of your body disagrees with you having this thing, it will be harder to create.
If you have ambivalence, your desire will be thwarted. You need to desire it enough right from the start to be certain you will overcome all obstacles, before you even know what they are. Your desire must be strong enough to burn away anything that tries to stop you.
How’s Your Havingness?
“Havingness” is your ability to have. It includes your ability to receive and hold in your life things that you want. Havingness takes on the appearance of external circumstances, but often those are just a symptom of what’s going on inside a person. Someone who drinks away all their money has a low havingness for money and has not learned how to keep money around them. A person who spends profligately when they get a little surplus will not be able to hold onto the money they get. They also don’t currently have the resources to know how to turn some money into more money and ultimately into lots of money. Instead it bleeds through their fingers because they don’t understand leverage.
People have high havingness in some areas and low havingness in others. A person may have a low havingness for money, but a high havingness for books. Where do you have low and high havingness?
Can You Let Yourself Have It?
If you’re having the experience that what you are focused on manifesting is not coming to you, it may be because you are fending it off. Possibly you can’t let yourself have it. (This is why a manifestation practice is so valuable for personal growth—if it was just easy all the time, there would be no growth and one would never exceed oneself.) You may have habits of thought and action that drive away the very things that you are attempting to create. Do you make it unappealing for the thing to come to you? Do you prefer the satisfaction of being right about not getting the thing to the satisfaction of actually getting it? Take a look at the ways this might be true—what you uncover might empower you.
If you think you can’t have a thing, you will be quickly stopped when obstacles come up along the way, which of course they will. You will grasp at obstacles as reasons why you can’t have the thing, and the obstacles will cement your reluctance. More and more obstacles will appear and finally you will give up in disgust, thinking “maybe the thing wasn’t for me after all.” If you are willing to give up instead of being galvanized by obstacles, then yes, perhaps the thing wasn’t for you. Your desire has to outlive all obstacles.
Everyone has self-sabotage in some area—it is an entirely human preoccupation. Don’t get caught up in blaming yourself once you find the area in which you sabotage yourself. To blame yourself is to continue with, and pour energy into, the sabotage. It’s impractical and unnecessary. Just let any self-blame go, realize that you are human like the rest of us, and move on to eliminating the habit.
Ask yourself some questions about the thing you desire to create.
Can you allow yourself to have this thing?
Do you think you don’t deserve it?
Do you think perhaps no one should have it?
Do you think it’s impossible to have it?
Do you think it’s not possible for someone like you to have it?
Perhaps you need to start smaller so your body and being can tolerate having the thing. Really, the universe is happy to throw anything at you that you can imagine. It’s not limited by what you’ll allow yourself to have. So go ahead and daydream—the universe will give you things too big for your arms to hold. Take what you can and let the rest go. You can create it again tomorrow. Let yourself get used to holding onto what you have created. Let your body get used to it.
Your Senses Will Tell You
Your body will let you know if it’s uncomfortable with what you are created. Your senses will let you know.
Have you ever had something so good happen that it caused an adrenaline panic in your gut? It’s very hard not to act on such a sensation by pulling back and retreating from success. Fear elicits animal responses in us: panic, run, freeze. This may be your gut’s way of telling you that something better than you are familiar with is on the way.
Have you ever listened to the litany of reasons why “this can’t happen” that goes on in your head in such a moment? If you listen closely, some of them will amaze you. Some will be very familiar, recorded and played back by your brain in your parents’ voices. Other will utterly surprise you, so that you may wonder where that notion came from. Argue back, or just shut off the sound and tune back in to your desire. Don’t let the inner voices stop you.
Have you ever watched the disaster-movie of negative pictures your mind sometimes creates when you are on the verge of having something you have been creating for a long while? Don’t give these negative images any room. Go back to your desire. It is your touchstone—return to it when you get lost in the obstacles.
Expand Your Havingness Gradually
Try successive approximations to your goal. Create a small, immediate version of the big thing you are really wanting. Every time a small thing comes to you it confirms your belief that such things are possible and it stokes your ability to desire more. Run through the cycle of imagine-manifest-receive over and over again to build up your faith in the process itself. This will make the feeling of desire more comfortable for you.
To have what you want, start by wanting what you have. “Love the one you’re with.” If there is someone/something in your life that you don’t want there, plan to graduate from it, rather than kicking it out forcibly (as people usually do). The more force you use to push something you don’t want away, the more gravity that thing will have for you in the future and the more likely you are to create it again in a new form, as a seemingly new obstacle on the way to getting what you do want.
Hope Helps and Disappointment Denies
Voice of Desire: I want this!
Voice of Disappointment: Getting “this” is impossible. Just give up. It’s not worth hoping for. You’ll only be disappointed. Why not put your attention on something you can actually have instead?
You (caught between the two): Gee, that sounds so reasonable. . .
Fear of disappointment is one of the most insidious energy-stealers there is. And unfortunately, humans pass it to each other like a virus. Do not let fear of disappointment stop you. Do not let the fear of disappointment in others around you stop you either. Keep your plans to yourself if you have to.
Accustom yourself to disappointment. Hope for the impossible on a daily basis and experience small disappointments. Small disappointments are a sign you are playing big in your life. You’ll never get anywhere playing small and never feeling disappointed. Get used to feeling let down and then moving on. There’s no reason to let a feeling like this stop you.
No human being has died of disappointment (at least, not without other factors involved too!). The fear of disappointment will keep you mediocre. When others attempt to remind you that you may experience disappointment on the way to your goal, take a hard look at their lives and ask yourself, “is this person extraordinary enough, powerful enough to offer me advice about creating?” If they are, then listen. If not, smile to the person and ignore the advice.
The most powerful way to learn to create the “impossible” is to learn to ignore what other people say is impossible. “Impossible” is just other people’s word for obstacles they can’t see how to get around. You can be the one to see how, and hope and desire can propel you to that epiphany.
Hope is what leads to desire—cultivate it. Miracles happen everyday. People cure their own certain-death cancer, lives are saved that doctors believed lost, babies born to people diagnosed infertile, lifespans increased, money made that wasn’t there to make, jobs attained that “didn’t exist.” If not for our capacity for the extraordinary, we wouldn’t have longing for excellence in our human souls. But we do. Not only is the “impossible” possible, with burning desire it becomes downright probable. Certainly such miracles do not happen by accident.
Why Affirmations Alone Are Not Enough
Affirmations are not enough by themselves. Affirmations are statements of what you want. You write them out and then read them over to yourself before sleep or when you awake every day. Affirmations can be embedded into a self-hypnosis cd. Affirmations are intended to be delivered in a time when the mind is pliable and receptive, so that core beliefs may be changed. This is good, but there’s no emotion, no passion in the technique of affirmations. Affirmations are all content with no form; they are like packing your car with everything you want on your trip, and then not bothering to put gas in the tank of your car. Without the gas (passion, desire), your affirmations can be the best stuff in the world but they will go nowhere. If you’ve been using affirmations and wondering why they don’t seem to have a lot of power, you’d best go fill up your engine. Fuel your desires and then you and your affirmations can get somewhere.
What is a “burning desire?” It is a desire so strong that it burns in your heart and soul. It tolerates no argument, brooks no obstacle, and carries such force that it refuses to be stopped. A burning desire will always find a way.
Desiring is powerful because it naturally leads you to fantasize about the thing or condition in question and inject positive feelings into it. When you are longing for something deeply, don’t you daydream about it all the time? Don’t you rehearse all its possible scenarios? Don’t you hypnotize yourself into a bliss-state every time you think about it? There is tremendous power in desire’s ability to shut out every evidence of its failure. Harness all these qualities of desire: the bliss, the sheer emotional force, the purposeful ignoring of “hard reality” and you’ve got a real power-tool for manifestation. (Remember, if you hold a powerful desire and pour it into what you are manifesting for only five minutes a day, even that small bit should make a difference.)
Desire is what you come back to when everything else has failed. When people say what you want is impossible, desire is the thing that can overcome that. Desire is inexplicable and unreasonable. It cannot be explained. It responds poorly to logic and brilliantly to passion. Desire is the only motivation left when you shout to the universe: “to hell with the reasons why not! I just want it!”
How do you know when you’ve reached clarity? The key to clarity is certainty. You are certain.
Certainty is a sense, a knowing, and as such, it is often tagged to the physical senses. How do you know you are certain? You see it, hear it or feel it, or sometimes a combination of two of these, or even all three.
You can experience certainty via having your mental picture of the thing come into focus. You may be trying to get to clarity about what you are creating and you may be struggling with the mental picture. Then suddenly—voila! The picture you have formed of it in your mind comes into sharp, clear focus and you know that you are certain: this is, in fact, what you want. You know because you’ve seen it.
Similarly, you may hear certainty. You may be developing what you want by telling yourself a story about it. You may hear the finale of the story and get clarity that yes, this is indeed, what you want. Or, you may hear a sort of ring or other sound in your head that lets you know when you’ve got it right.
And similarly also, you may feel certainty in your body. It can be internal, like butterflies in the stomach, or external, like the hair standing up on the back of your neck. It may be a wonderful, warm feeling in the pit of your gut or it may be a feeling of being solidly rooted to the ground when you think about this thing you are creating. For some it is a sensation of something clicking into place, the feeling of a perfect fit.
Some people experience certainty in two of these sense modes at once, or will use one mode to confirm another. For some it is a matter of making a mental picture that then comes into focus and is confirmed by the sound of a bell in their head. For others it may be a mental picture followed by a kinesthetic “click.” And some people will wait for all three modes of internal sensory experience to agree before they feel certain of a thing.
I highly recommend becoming aware of how you use these internal sense modes to arrive at a sense of certainty, because it can speed the process tremendously. (Neuro-linguistic programming is the best tool I know of for studying yourself this way and here is a link to the site of a group in Marin County, California who are doing wonderful things with it.)
Coming up soon, a look at the second Power Tool of Manifestation.
This is part of a series about manifestation, which begins here.
Clarity means knowing what you want. It is another word for focus. When you are clear on what you want, it stands out sharply in your mind. It’s distinct.
Clarity also means knowing what you don’t want. It means being willing to take your attention off of what you don’t want, because if you focus unduly on what you don’t want, you’ll create that instead of what you do want. Don’t let yourself get sucked into the fear that you’ll get what you don’t want, which will certainly create that condition, because fear is a feeling and thus it is an engine of creation. Fear creates as readily as love. The unfortunate side-effect of creating from fear is that the end result of what you create from fear, when it finally comes to you, will be saturated with the very fear you created it with. You cannot create an end experience filled with beauty and love by using the driving power of fear; it is simply a mechanical impossibility. With manifestation it is an incontrovertible rule that the medium and message are one.
You will sometimes have to wrench your attention away from what you don’t want. The human mind tends to gravitate towards what we don’t want and have, rather than what we do want and don’t have. It can sometimes be very hard to stop thinking about how annoying it is that things are still this way when you really want them that way. The very annoyance is the glue that keeps your attention attached to the negative and perpetuates it.
This is why complaining drains your power. When you complain, you are focusing on the negative and thus creating it. What you get is more of the same: negative stuff only worth complaining about. Break the cycle of complaint and focus on what you actually do want and you’re on your way to creating it. Then all you need is practice and patience.
Your knowledge of what you want doesn’t have to be perfect, but your clarity about what you do know does. It’s fine to start with what you know you don’t want, and work outward from there, as long as you don’t get stuck before arriving at what you do want.
If you quite simply don’t know what you want, try just deciding on something to want. Decide arbitrarily if you have to. It’s just to get you over the hump, to get you started. Start small. Focus on something small long enough to receive it and see how you like it. Then refine your request and ask again. The universe is an infinite ocean for your fishing pleasure; there is no limit to the number of times you can fish something out of it, decide not to keep the fish and toss it back. You don’t ever need to feel guilty or to feel that you are wasting time (yours or the universe’s) by tossing back the fish. You can continue the process until you have caught exactly the right fish. In fact, the more you practice, the better.
Allow yourself to come to clarity by a process of conversing with the universe. “I think I want chocolate ice cream. I’m focusing on chocolate ice cream with great clarity.” The universe hands you a pint of Ben and Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chunk. Hmm, you say, “I really want it in a waffle cone.” Then you focus on NYSFC in a waffle cone. The universe hands you a waffle cone with some miscellaneous chocolate ice cream in it and you realize you forgot to continue focusing on the NYSFC. But maybe this other flavor is pretty good . . . And on it goes. It is a refinement process that only ends when you say it does.
Don’t get stuck in whether or not what you want is possible. All that time spent arguing about whether and how it could happen could be much better spent actually visualizing, learning from the universe’s response to the visualization and refining the visualization.
To use the tool of clarity is to be willing to be clear even when you are in process. To focus your mind clearly on what you are creating and to be willing to receive what the universe throws at you, to respond to that, clear your mind and start again.
I’ll say a bit more about clarity tomorrow.
Not all of these are required for every manifestation to come into being, but if you do get all of these right, what you wish will come to pass. You will likely be astonished how quickly. Here they are:
1. Clarity. Know what you want. Your knowledge of what you want doesn’t have to be perfect, but your clarity about what you do know does. It’s fine to start with what you know you don’t want, and work outward from there, as long as you don’t get stuck before arriving at what you do want.
2. Desire. Napoleon Hill calls this “burning desire” and he’s right when he says it’s absolutely essential. The thing you desire must feel thoroughly good to you, on every level. If you have ambivalence, your desire will be thwarted. You need to desire it enough right from the start to be certain you will overcome all obstacles, before you even know what they are. Your desire must be strong enough to burn away anything that tries to stop you.
3. Imagination. To be precise, you must be able to create detailed, realistic, internal sensory experience of the thing or state you want. This comes with practice and it helps if you use as many sensory modes (sight, sound, touch, etc.) as possible. What you are imagining must feel real and possible, and it’s best to place yourself inside your vision.
4. Passion. You need to feel great in your body while imagining this thing. Feelings are the engine that brings the thing into existence, so clamping down on hope to avoid disappointment will only hamstring you. You’ve got to let yourself feel it.
5. Detachment. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? You have to pour your passion into this thing and then let go of attachment to the outcome. Funny thing is, it works. Stop caring how the thing looks or what path it takes to get to you, and it will come to you faster, and from unexpected quarters.
6. Persistence. Figure out how you want to manifest this thing. What is your process? Exactly how will you focus your attention? Then do that every day, several times a day. Do it into the ground. Become unstoppable.
7. Will. That is to say, you are actively, not passively, involved in what you are creating. You are committed to action. You follow up on the synchronicities and leads that are generated by your creating. Every action you take toward it strengthens it and provides more avenues for opportunities that can help you.
8. Certainty. You must know what certainty feels like in your body and in your heart. Certainty is the feeling or knowing that you get when you’ve gotten each of the other steps right. Be certain about your clarity, your passion, your will, your persistence and so on. This is the linchpin that holds the other tools together.
9. Inclusion. You build right into your manifestation practice the belief and expectation that what you create is and shall be perfect for everyone. People other than you benefit from what you create. Your wish is also a gift for others, in ways you cannot now anticipate (and don’t need to). No matter how selfish what you want may seem, if you build this in, your creation will gather steam from the goodwill of others who also stand to benefit from it.
I don’t think all of these tools need to be used each time you set out to create something with the power of your imagination; some of them may be more pertinent to the specific content of what you are creating, while others may be irrelevant. But if you practice all of them they become tools in your toolkit and you can draw on them whenever you need to. Then you’ll be unstoppable, because manifesting absolutely anything, no matter how big or “impossible” is simply a matter of “lather, rinse, repeat.” Apply these tools again, again, again, again and again until you have arrived at your destination.
Over the next few weeks I’ll be going into each of these principles in detail. In the meantime, have at it and change your world!
The ability to create a place to park your car is a wonderful, basic manifestation skill that is well-worth developing. I’ll tell you how I did it.
Some years ago, I discovered that I had spirit guides. Or rather, that pretty much everyone has spirit guides and that I was no exception. Most people have at least one being watching over them, perhaps an ancestor or a spirit that owes them karma from previous interactions. These spirits are usually out to be helpful, in my experience. My particular batch, at it turned out, have never been in a body on this planet, some of them never in a body at all, and so they are not very familiar with some of the mundane details of life in a body. I wanted them to be able to create parking places for me and so I set out to train them in this. I wanted them also to help me to speed on the freeway without getting tickets and to help keep my car safe and in good repair. So most of my early uses of them were in the automotive department.
One in particular emerged, whom I came to name “Gorky.” Don’t know why—that’s just what he wanted to be called. Gorky appeared as a sort of imaginary creature who looked like a gargoyle, kind of dark gray and winged and ugly as sin, but with a playful and sweet disposition. I have come to see Gorky as the marshal of the team and I address my requests to him, without bothering to name or distinguish the others.
You should understand that “seeing” a creature like Gorky doesn’t happen with the physical eye. It is more like a strong imagining. I could tell you exactly where Gorky is and what he is doing right now—it is the first thing that comes into my mind when I turn my attention to him. The very first, uncensored thing is usually the strongest intuitive hit, and should be taken as such. After you’ve had more than a few seconds to think about it, your left (logical) brain has already taken over and it’s too late for your intuitive (right) brain to speak. And as for whether the existence of creatures like Gorky is the truth, it doesn’t really matter. My “seeing” him and our “conversations” are likely just figments of my imagination; however the imagination is the doorway to the hindbrain’s power over the physical world. Perhaps internal images, sensations and the like are nothing but the language I use to communicate with my own hindbrain. I don’t really care what the “truth” is, because frankly, seeing Gorky works, and seems historically to have provided me with some abilities not commonly accepted as normal. And if you’ve discovered an access like that, why linger on the threshold arguing when you can instead enter a whole new, fascinating world?
Right now, Gorky is sitting on the edge of my desk flapping his wings and laughing at the idea that I am describing him to you. He thinks it’s crazy of me to try. His English is not so good. He sounds rather like a seal barking.
So after “meeting” Gorky many years ago, I set out to learn how to create parking and to teach this important skill to Gorky so that I wouldn’t always have to do it for myself.
I would like to point out here that parking in the San Francisco Bay Area is a total bitch. This is a crowded, urban area of the country, filled with locals, immigrants and travelers, and it’s a mix of just about every kind of domestic and international driving style you can imagine. Somehow people still manage to only hit each other a minimum of the time. Parking presents problems because frequently garages are arranged such that curb area is chopped up into smaller-than-carsize pieces, rendering much of a residential block unparkable. Metered spots have gotten harder and harder to find on a regular basis in the 18 years I’ve lived here, and more expensive too (as are the accompanying tickets should your meter run out before you return). It is common to be 10 or 15 minutes late after arriving in an area on time, simply because you were unable to find parking. I’ve known people to cancel appointments and leave an area in disgust after an unfruitful search. Parking predators are a common sight, slowly trawling the streets and lurking after a pedestrian who seems likely to be going to their vehicle. It is also common to see a driver pull a u-turn in the middle of the street in order to catch a spot on the other side because he knows damn well that if he goes around the block like a good boy, the spot will not be there when he gets back. I have even had a spot taken from under my very nose by an aggressive SUV driver as I staged my car to enter the spot. He slipped into it behind me, entering frontward before I could back into the spot. Who enters a parking place frontward? I never expected it. He then refused to budge and grinned proudly at me from behind his driver’s door glass. I thought long and hard about ramming him with my less-expensive car. Don’t worry—I got him back. I came back later with a dozen eggs.
So this gives you an idea of the parking conditions in the Bay Area. If they are anything like the conditions in your area, then I hope you make good use of the methods I’m about to explain.
My first parking method was also the most complex. It went something like this: begin by imagining the area where you are going to park. I literally could not use this method if I couldn’t visualize the block I’d be parking on. So, visualize the area in detail. Find the place where you’d like parking, say “right in front of Restaurant B, where we have a reservation.” Imagine that, as you are approaching, someone is just about to go to their car. I would imagine this quite vividly. “Someone is about to go to their car,” I’d tell myself. “Someone really needs to leave the area now, and they are going to their car. They are getting in their car and it’s timed perfectly with my arrival. In fact, it’s as if there’s a connection, a link between the back of their car and the front of mine, so that the parking place they leave is just for me. It’s perfect for the person leaving and it’s perfect for me.”
The element of “it’s perfect for everybody” is crucial in a good visualization; it’s so important that I’ll write about it in another post soon.
I can’t tell you how many times doing this visualization, and injecting a strong dose of positive feeling into it, resulted in me arriving on the scene just in time to catch a parking place opening up. I liked the method and it worked, so I taught it to Gorky. He used it, to my benefit, and he seemed to enjoy doing so.
I want to mention here that my guides did then and do now seem to take a great interest in things of the physical world. For them it’s all theory, because they’ve never had bodies. They enjoy the mechanics of it and they don’t seem to be as frustrated by the slowness of the effects of intention as I am, which is nice. They help me be patient.
After some training, I began turning the parking over to Gorky. All I had to do was ask him to create parking for me and show him a mental picture of the layout of the block I was targeting. This did not, however, deal with the situation of first-time parking in an area new to me, an area I had no mental picture of. Also, the method was cumbersome and worked best when it was begun a good ten minutes ahead of time. It didn’t work well for last-minute parking needs. I ultimately needed a simpler method.
I got around the problem of being unfamiliar with the target area by asking Gorky to search the minds of people who knew the block in question. That worked too. After some time of refining and even complexifying the method I had created (so I could account for its flaws), I finally stripped it way down.
Here’s what I do today: I am approaching an area where I want parking. I start to generate a really good feeling in my body. I draw from any good sensations I can call up in order to make myself feel good. I then imagine myself arriving, evoking the feeling of arrival, the sensation of knowing that I have arrived. I mix the feeling of arrival and the really-good-feeling together. I associate them. I amp it up a little. If I don’t know the area, I don’t bother making mental pictures, because I know they will just get in the way. So instead I hear myself exclaiming “wow—what a perfect parking space! And it was so easy!” I drive relaxedly, sometimes even slowing down, especially if I had begun to panic a little and speed up at the thought of possibly not being able to park. I force my mind entirely off thoughts of failure and allow only thoughts of success.
Holding positive feelings in your body and positive thoughts in your mind is crucial. You will find that if you are not successful quickly, your brain will start complaining. “It always goes this way,” you’ll say, or “I’m never going to find a spot.” And if that’s what you think, the universe will make it so, even if only because you talk yourself into quitting before you have time to succeed. You must eject all negativity from your mind while creating. Be ruthless.
If I do know the area, I design my search pattern in my mind, for example, “I will turn left onto Allston and start looking for parking in the first block. If I have to go around the block, I will turn right onto Milvia and come back around the school.” It is very rare that I have to go through my search pattern more than twice and in fact quite rare that I have to go through it more than once. If I do have to go around the block, usually a spot has become free by the time I return, even if there was no sign of that happening on the first pass.
Finding parking spaces, even in the difficult Bay Area, has become easy. It’s also become a small, everyday way to practice manifestation and to validate the powers of the mind over the physical universe, when that mind is radiating good feeling and love. It works best when I’m either in a good mood or willing to get myself into one. Every time I create parking, I am forced to put myself in a good-feeling place (if I wasn’t before) and I am reminded that the world is a good place and that what I do with my mind impacts it powerfully.
My thoughts matter. Yours do too. Go out and think some good ones today.