The Best and Worst of Aries
Aries, this post is all about you, which must mean that I have your full attention! Your sign is the hard-headed ram (born between March 22 and April 20) and like a ram, you literally plunge head-first into life. You’re a natural leader, and the world needs people like you because it is full of followers. But when are you being a pioneering maverick or just an obnoxious blowhard?
Aries, when you’re at your best. . .
…you are being honest, direct and forthright. Nobody has to be a mind-reader around you, because you say what you are thinking with little hesitation. And people like your friendly and transparent nature since ‘what you see is what you get.’ There is a beautiful simplicity to you, and you can get a lot accomplished in your life solely because you know exactly what you want. The sun is exalted in Aries, which means that your ego’s desires translate directly into action. You are also great at pursuing things in all aspects of your life—relationships, jobs, money—so you quite often end up getting the things you need.
…and at you’re worst…
There is another side to your go-getter nature which can actually alienate others. You are the solipsist of the zodiac, so you have a hard time seeing how your actions affect others, or that there are other dimensions to reality beyond yours. You can seriously lack self-objectivity, and lose perspective on your own behavior. Know how irritating a screaming, self-centered infant can be? Well that may be an accurate metaphor for how others view you at times. You can be hasty, rushed, and while you are good at starting things, completing projects is more of a challenge. Your ‘honesty’ (which you value so much) can really just come off as abrasive, blunt and unnecessarily provocative. Your irascible nature means that you can also fly off the handle easily, while others are left spinning in your wake.
Handling your Aries nature
In order to accomplish things at a pace which keeps you interested, try the method of ‘fail fast, fail often’ where you allow yourself to jump right into a project and fail (without penalty) as many times as it is necessary to successfully complete it. If you spend all of your time dwelling on one aspect of a project, you’ll get bored, and boredom is anathema to you. Also, try to dial down your behavior around others who are slower or have lower energy than you—otherwise you will end up bulldozing them. And lastly, have an apology ready at hand. You will inevitably step on people’s toes so be prepared to apologize quickly and gracefully. That can smooth things over and get you back on the fast track, where you belong.
Clueing others in about you….
Tell others that you appreciate it when they shoot from the hip—let them know that you need strong feedback in order to curb your behavior. Skywriting their words from a plane should do it. Also let others know that every once in while, your Aries bubble may pop and you will feel deflated. Don’t let them ever assume it’s their fault, since you, Aries, will re-inflate your own bubble in no time. And in a similar vein, let others know that if you get angry (which you will), they shouldn’t feel responsible for it nor should they take it personally. Your emotions are like a monsoon season—the skies will be bright and sunny until a torrential downpour strikes. Ten minutes later, the sun will come back again. Let others know that they can run for cover, but that you won’t hold a grudge and will quickly let go of whatever set you off. You’ll always do best with companions who also don’t hold a grudge and who are able to let go of any of your stupid mistakes right away, as being reminded over and over again of what you did wrong brings you unnecessary pain. Then you can get back to barreling through life in your usual way!
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