Chiron the Wounded Healer has spent the last few months (since May 30) traveling backwards. Today he turns his face forward and re-covers the same ground. Why should it matter to you? If he’s passing through a zone where you have a planet in your natal chart, he’s bringing you a powerful healing opportunity this year. And it’s not over yet.
This Is A Pivotal Day
If you are one of the millions of people having a Chiron transit this year, today may be pivotal for you. Around May 30, you came to realize (or perhaps you were forced to realize) you were facing a big life-change. You’ve been confronted with a part of you that feels deeply broken, maybe even unfixable. Something wounding has happened to you this year and you’ve been preoccupied with it. It all really began earlier in the spring and by late May you realized you couldn’t really avoid the pain. If you decided to accept the discomfort and seek healing, kudos to you—you’re doing the right thing.
Today (and I mean this loosely—it may happen as soon as 2 days before or as late as 2 days after today) is a pivotal day in this process. Today may be the day you come to clarity. If you really look at the situation you can see your chance to resolve some old, unfinished pain along with resolving the present situation. And you’re gearing up to do that sometime between now and March of 2010.
“What is a Chiron transit like . . .”
During a Chiron transit, something painful usually happens. It feels like you’ve been wounded to the core. You may feel that you’ve been victimized, that what’s happened is beyond your control and never should have happened. And you could well be right about that. But there’s something deep going on here that’s not apparent on the surface.
The pain you feel is not really about the present at all. It’s about the past. Chiron has sent you a wakeup call, using an event in the present moment to remind you of a part of you that has gotten stuck in woundedness. Chiron wants you to heal that part of yourself and he knows that it will only happen if he reminds you that it exists, because human nature causes us to bury pain unless it is acute.
Whatever you’re dealing with in the present is connected with something in your past. If you heal it here and now, that healing has echoes into the past, healing it retroactively. That may be good news but there’s also great news and that is, it works both ways: focus on healing the past and the present will be healed too. You can work it from either end, whichever is easier for you.
Here’s an example of just one way this could look. Let’s say your boyfriend does something that hurts you and reminds you of your abusive father. Cleaning things up with your boyfriend is an opportunity to heal the inner child in you that’s been stuck at the age of greatest wounding. And if you take a break from fighting with your boyfriend and instead focus on healing your relationship with your father (which you can do inside yourself, whether he’s actually available or not), voila! Your relationship with your boyfriend improves, almost magically. That’s because they are connected. And who drew the connection? Chiron. And because Chiron connected the past with the present via a wound that feels the same in the past and the present, you get a heal-2-for-the-price-of-one deal. Not bad, actually.
“. . . and how do I know when I’m having one?”
First of all, you know by feel. If what I’ve described resonates for you, it’s likely you are having a Chiron transit. (If it resonates, but only a little, you may be having a transit, but by a planet other than Chiron.) Transits are almost always accompanied by real-world events, which are woven into your experience of the change. Transits feel distinct when they are happening, and the sensation distinctly fades as they end. When a transit is over, your preoccupation with its themes quickly fades as your attention becomes grabbed by a different transit. Occasionally a person will have no major transits at all for a time period (weeks, say, or months), but that’s pretty rare.
You can find out whether you’re having a Chiron transit by peeking at your chart. This year Chiron is covering the space from 21 to 26 degrees of Aquarius. This will affect you if you have any planet in the space from 21 to 26 degrees of any of the four Fixed signs (Aquarius, Taurus, Leo or Scorpio).
If you don’t have your chart, or don’t know how to read your chart, you might want to order your own personal Astrology Chart Decoder. This is a special tool I’ve invented that puts your chart’s details in English, instead of astrology symbols. Your Decoder tells you where every planet in your chart is located: the sign it’s in, the house it’s in and the exact degree it occupies. When you’ve got your Decoder in front of you, check to see if you have anything at all in 21-26 degrees of Aquarius, Taurus, Leo or Scorpio. If you do, you are definitely having a Chiron transit this year. And knowing that gives you the chance to see the healing for the opportunity it is, instead of being victimized by it.
“How long does it last?”
A Chiron transit will typically last for 9-18 months. Today is just one part of it, a pivotal day in the flow of a months-long healing opportunity. The timing of your transit will be personal to you. It takes an astrologer to look it up—it’s not something I can just tell you in a blogpost. In an astrology reading you can find out the timing of it and how to move beyond hurting to surviving and ultimately to thriving. You can also find out which part of you (i.e. planet in your chart) is being affected by this wounding-and-healing opportunity. Is it Relationships (Venus)? Career (Saturn)? Home (Moon)? Or it could be something more subtle.
“What do I do now?”
There are 2 responses that are crucial to know about. If you can manage these, it will go so much smoother for you!
One is: don’t play the victim. While you sit around bemoaning the fact that you’ve been hurt, you’re throwing away your own power in the situation. If you can accept and own that you had a wounded place long before this moment came along and give thanks for this opportunity to heal yourself, you are way ahead of the game.
And the other is: don’t get distracted by healing others. When a human being begins to gain competency in an area where they feel wounded, the first tendency is to offer assistance to others. This is a beautiful thing, but it also comes with a possible pitfall, which is that you can get distracted from your own healing path by the sense of superiority you feel towards others that are not as far along as you are. It can be very comfortable to congratulate yourself that you’re doing fine compared with all those folks that are not doing as fine as you are. But that’s a way of avoiding your own healing work.
Chiron’s gift may be painful to receive but it is profound: it is the gift of getting your own wholeness back. Were you split? Now you can mend. Were you wounded? Now you can heal. Was your past unresolved? Now you can resolve it. This is your chance to become more whole, more of your own complete self than ever before.
When it’s over, it’s over
After this transit ends, your healing period will be over. It’s quite possible you’ll have another healing period in a different area of your life in the next few years (it’s likely in fact), but this one will have passed. Take courage, because this will soon be over. But also, and more importantly, take advantage. Use this opportunity for healing while it’s happening. It doesn’t come around every day.
Recently I’ve posted about Venus and how your Venus sign tells what you long for in relationship and how you act when you don’t get it. Today I’m concentrating on Juno.
Introducing Juno, Goddess of Committed Relationship
If you’re wondering why you’ve never heard of Juno, that’s because Juno is an asteroid in the asteroid belt that sits between the orbits of Mars and Jupiter. The asteroid belt contains thousands of asteroids, but only the 4 largest are in common use by astrologers (Juno, Vesta, Pallas-Athene, Ceres). Juno represents committed relationship or marriage and the sign she occupies in your chart will tell what kind of person you look to marry and what your marital expectations are. Juno will also tell whether you’re “the marrying kind.” It’s possible to get a very complete picture of the ways marriage will be easy or hard for you by looking at Juno in your chart. If you don’t know where Juno is in your chart, you can use Astro.com to make your chart and find out.
How Literal Is This Marriage Thing—Does Juno Mean Marriage Only?
Um, NO. Juno is about committed relationship. If you are in a committed relationship with someone you cannot or will not legally marry (for example, if you’re gay & cannot get married), things I’m saying about Juno still apply to you.
What follows is a very brief (and of course incomplete) set of interpretations for Juno in the signs:
Juno in Aries expects that marriage is an adventure. This Juno wants to experience freshness and newness everyday, a continual rebirth and renewal of commitment. If this Juno cannot speak the truth and experience excitement, she will wander.
Juno in Taurus wants and expects unflinching stability. This Juno will stand by the partner through good times and bad, and expects the same in return. Cooking with the partner and having a financially stable marriage will support this Juno’s commitment.
Juno in Geminineeds a quality of lightness in marriage. She doesn’t like to be tied down and is prone to living a double life unless all her attention can be engaged. Her best marriage involves lots of communication, both talking and listening.
Juno in Cancercan get very domestic because this Juno intuits that a well-feathered nest and raising children are the ultimate reason for marrying. She also expects that marriage is a place for an ever-deepening emotional connection. She’s a caretaker.
Juno in Leo expects that her marriage and her partner must look good. She tends to marry radiant, larger-than-life types who can be domineering behind the scenes. If you ever embarrass her in public, be prepared for the cold shoulder afterwards.
Juno in Virgo is as selective as Venus in Virgo, and twice as critical. She will serve the partner endlessly, hoping to improve them. Shaping and molding the partner are tempting but this Juno is much better off turning her perfectionist talents toward meaningful work instead.
Juno in Libra wants to be on a level with the spouse and experience true, balanced partnership. She’s always willing to sit down and negotiate or talk things out, as long as it doesn’t get too messy or dark. When they do, she needs harmony before going deeper.
Juno in Scorpio expects that marriage is a deep merging of two-in-one, mind, body & soul and she will consider it her right to know everything possible about the partner before and after marrying them. Choosing the right partner in the first place is crucial.
When a Juno in Sagittarius person is happily married, s/he feels that marriage is a freedom, not a limitation. For this Juno, marriage needs to involve unending growth and expansion—if there’s not room for that, marriage is not worth committing to.
Juno in Capricorn takes marriage with the utmost seriousness. She sees marriage as a social contract in which both partners agree to support each other’s reputation and keep each other looking good. Humiliate her and you’ll lose her (considerable) devotion.
Juno in Aquariuswould rather not get married at all, quite frankly, and will only be attracted to someone unusual enough to grab her attention. She is aware of the political ramifications of marriage and doesn’t want to give up her power or freedom.
Juno in Pisces dreams of the ultimate partner, which can get in the way of living with a real human being in the here-and-now. She may have trouble giving herself completely to marriage but seeing it as a spiritual connection makes commitment & fidelity stick.
Go To Bed As Venus, Wake Up As Juno
If you’ve read all the articles in this 3-part thread, it should be pretty obvious by now how having Venus & Juno in incompatible positions might spell some relationship challenges. There comes a time in every relationship of duration when you ask yourself, “does this relationship have what it takes to last?” It’s as if you flip from the lover-seeking side of you to the side that assesses mate material and it can happen overnight. For many people, this question pops up somewhere between 4 and 6 months into dating someone new. Up to that point, the Lover in you was happy enough to keep you sticking around this person. Now the Mate in you pops up and gets you looking at more serious concerns.
Do Your Expectations for Marriage Conflict With Your Romantic/Erotic Needs?
Most people have some kind of challenge around making the transition from love to commitment and that’s because love and commitment are actually two different archetypal functions within human personality. Juno shows what you need in a committed relationship, but Venus shows what you need in order to fall in love and to maintain a romantic, erotic connection over time. The ultimate situation occurs when you can have it all—you experience a deep, committed connection with someone which can last a lifetime and inside that connection you feel wildly and passionately in love. This is a wonderful state and it is attainable by everyone, no matter how challenged Venus and Juno might be in your chart and no matter how fiercely they might be challenging each other. It’s simply a matter of figuring out all your needs and honoring them all, without sacrificing one for the other.
Own Your Juno
What I said in my recent Venus post applies here too: own your Juno, rather than projecting her qualities onto a mate. Become the mate you need. This will make you more marriageable and will make married life sustainable for you. Then you can relax into a lifetime of happy marriage with exactly the amount of depth or freedom or emotional bonding or passion or excitement that you want. The interpretations I’ve listed above are just a smidgen of what Juno has to offer in terms of really understanding your marital needs.
Jolly Jupiter has spent the last few months (since June 15) traveling backwards. Today he turns his face forward and re-covers the same ground. Why should you care? If he’s passing through a zone where you have a planet in your natal chart, he’s been bringing you growth and confidence this year. And he’s not done yet.
This Is A Pivotal Day
If you are one of the millions of people having a Jupiter transit this year, today may be pivotal for you. Around June 15, you came to realize you were facing a growth period and since then, you’ve been re-evaluating some the area of your life that’s expanding. You’ve been examining it and mulling it over. Perhaps you’ve been researching it. Basically, you’ve been asking yourself, “What is this part of me that wants to explore and get bigger right now? How have I lived this part of me in the past and what is it turning into for the future?”
Today (and I mean this loosely—it may happen as soon as 2 days before or as late as 2 days after today) is pivotal. Today may be the day you realize your internal quest for understanding is over. You’ve come to clarity. You’ve recognized where the growth needs to happen and you’re ready to do something with what you’ve learned. You can now gear up to act on that recognition, sometime in the next few months (between now and January of 2010).
“What is a Jupiter transit like . . .”
Astrologers call Jupiter a “benefic” planet because he tends to bring good things. He’s kind of like Santa Claus. When you’re having a Jupiter transit, you tend to feel a sense of adventure, an expansiveness. This expansiveness and willingness to have fun with what life presents you increases your self-confidence and you tend to approach life with hope and optimism. Because of that, people feel good around you and they tend to offer you opportunities. You are more apt to get lucky during a Jupiter transit. It’s almost like being a “lucky Sagittarian” for a specific time period. The luck is a side-effect of your openness to growth and expansion right now and your ability to perceive events in your life as opportunities.
I’m not saying nothing bad will happen to you during a Jupiter transit—but I am saying that anything bad that happens is likely to go much better than it would have without Jupiter’s benefic presence. This is because during a Jupiter transit you are more able to put even bad events to good use, to squeeze those lemons into lemonade by adding your own sugar.
“. . . and how do I know when I’m having one?”
You can find out whether you’re having a Jupiter transit by peeking at your chart. This year Jupiter is covering the space between 17 and 27 degrees of Aquarius. This will affect you if you have any planet in the space between 17 and 27 degrees of any of the four Fixed signs (Aquarius, Taurus, Leo or Scorpio).
If you don’t have your chart, or don’t know how to read your chart, you might want to order your own personal Astrology Chart Decoder. This is a special tool I’ve invented that puts your chart’s details in English, instead of astrology symbols. Your Decoder tells you where every planet in your chart is located: the sign it’s in, the house it’s in and the exact degree it occupies. When you’ve got your Decoder in front of you, check to see if you have anything at all in 17-27 degrees of Aquarius, Taurus, Leo or Scorpio. If you do, you are definitely having a Jupiter transit this year. And knowing that gives you the chance to identify the opportunities when they appear, and to grab them. You might well ask . . .
What area of my life is being affected?
Good question. It will have to do with the planet that you find is in that zone I told you about, between 17 and 27 degrees of fixed signs. If it’s Mercury, you could be having a period of intellectual expansion, which is great for learning and expressing yourself in words. If it’s Venus or Juno, you could be having relationship luck, attracting fun partners who take you on adventures or experiencing adventure in the relationship you already have. If it’s Saturn, you could be facing a career expansion, a time when you exude confidence and grow your business.
“How long does it last?”
A Jupiter transit will typically last for 8-10 months. Today is just one part of it, a pivotal day in the flow of a months-long period of growth, expansion and opportunity. In an astrology reading you can find out all this good stuff:
• what area of your life has “gotten lucky”
• exactly how long it lasts
• when it started
• when it ends
• what various phases of it feel like
• how to take advantage of it
The timing of your transit will be personal to you. That’s why it takes an astrologer to look it up—it’s not something I can just tell you in a blogpost.
“What do I do now?”
Grab the opportunities as they fly by. You’re on life’s carousel and Jupiter is not going to just give you the goodies. You have to reach for and grab the brass ring. It’s up to you to decide which of all of Jupiter’s offerings are best for you right now. You have to use discernment and you have to take action. You have to respond.
It’s OK to say no to some of the opportunities. Jupiter will simply send you more. Focusing on what you really want can have the effect of shaping what Jupiter sends you. It’s a great time for a deliberate manifestation practice.
When it’s over, it’s over
After this transit ends, your lucky period will be over. It’s quite possible you’ll have another lucky period in a different area of your life in the next few years (it’s likely in fact), but this one will have passed. Take advantage of it while it’s happening!
Art by Betelgeux.
In my previous post, I talked about the experience people often have that love and marriage just don’t mix for them. It’s as if Venus, the part of us that falls in love, is arguing with Juno, the part of us that marries. But if we find out what each of these parts really wants and we satisfy them both, it’s possible to have a stable, consistent relationship you can count on, along with all the love, romance and erotic connection you can handle.
If you don’t know where Venus is in your astrology chart, you can make your own chart on Astro.com to find out.
What Venus Wants According To Her Sign
Venus in Aries wants a partner who’s honest, direct and fiery. This Venus is impulsive about love and wants a strict “No Phonies!” zone. When this Venus is unhappy, she is irritable, annoyed and picks fights with the partner, possibly even getting physical.
Venus in Taurus wants touch, physical affection and languorous sensuality. Don’t rush this one! Oh, and did I mention shopping and fine food? When this Venus is unhappy, she eats to feel better or participates in unwanted sex just for the physical affection.
Venus in Gemini can be distractible and it takes a very intelligent partner to hold her attention. Give her mental stimulation or she’ll get bored! When this Venus is unhappy, she is a flight risk and will seek more intellectually interesting partners elsewhere.
Venus in Cancer loves the feeling of being in love and craves emotional connection above all. Although she’s a caretaker, she secretly longs to be taken care of. When this Venus is unhappy she smothers the partner with excess emotional care and needs.
Venus in Leo is an exhibitionist. She wants a lover she can be proud of. She’ll lord it over her partner if allowed to, but what she really wants is a partner as royal as she is. When this Venus is unhappy she develops a superiority or inferiority complex.
Venus in Virgo is such a perfectionist. Sometimes it seems she’ll never be pleased. But in quiet moments she’ll confess to liking the process of perfecting so much that she hopes it will all never be done. When this Venus is unhappy, she nags and criticizes.
Venus in Libra loves beauty and can be captivated by it, but will always be won over by being treated with true fairness. She wants to be on a level with the partner. When this Venus is unhappy she first capitulates, then ultimately seeks a more equitable relationship.
Venus in Scorpio desires to be swept away by love. Sometimes her instincts steer her wrong and lead to awful relationships, but her passion to love is overwhelming. When this Venus is unhappy she gets manipulative, controlling and emotionally dramatic.
Venus in Sagittarius needs freedom and space. You can’t tie this one down—she’ll run away. You can hold her attention by travel and continual growth. When this Venus is unhappy she flirts up other people to remind herself that she is attractive and deserving.
Venus in Capricorn tends to think relationship has to be work. She has a stamp on her forehead that says “Expensive, but worth it.” She wants a partner who is very solid in their career. When this Venus is unhappy she turns stoic, working harder & harder on the relationship before giving up.
Venus in Aquarius has no clear pattern—seems like her every relationship is different from the one before. Nothing less than genius will hold her attention. When this Venus is unhappy she will rebel, reacting in unexpected ways until she gets what’s wanted.
Venus in Pisces is the Dream Lover. She wants a union of souls. She can get anyone she wants by becoming their ultimate object of desire. This is a powerful ability that can be abused. When this Venus is unhappy she gives until she’s exhausted, then floats away, hoping to avoid confrontation.
Now that was a batch of extremely brief and punchy interpretations for Venus—by no means exhaustive of course. But it begins to give us an idea what this capricious archetype longs for. And if you give Venus what she longs for, the result is you get to experience love, romance, connectedness and hormonal bliss.
The Venus Pitfall
One pitfall that people frequently get into is the tendency to look for our own Venus traits outside ourselves, in the shape of another person. We think that if we can just get into relationship with someone who exemplifies these traits, we’ll have found “the One” and bliss will naturally ensue. But real human relationships are more complex than that and no one wants to be just a screen for their lover’s projections. Have you ever been in a relationship and woke up to realize that your partner wasn’t really seeing you, but was seeing something they had projected onto you? We’ve all been on the giving and the receiving end of this behavior and it’s not fun. Left unchecked, this behavior will become an entrenched pattern that can ruin all your relationships. But there’s a solution, and it’s easier than you think. People who declare they have found true love know this solution and live it everyday.
How To Handle A Cranky Venus
The key is to stop projecting Venus out into the world and instead to own and live out your own Venus yourself. Become the lover you wish you had. This means that you take on the sign your Venus is in and live it out in the most vibrant, healthy way you can. A thorough reading of Venus in your chart (and everything attached to or impacting it) can yield a myriad of clues for sides of yourself which, if you develop and own them for yourself (instead of waiting passively for someone to come along and do them for you), will lead inevitably to an increased capacity for passionate love. And once your capacity to give & receive love is increased, you will stop pushing away the love that’s all around you, right now, but which you cannot see.
When you own and become your own Venus, you become radiantly attractive to your own perfect match. This happens because you are in love with yourself (in the best possible way) and you’re not approaching others from a needy, grabby place. Everything you’ve been doing wrong starts to go right. You become more attractive and charming to people in general and more able to graciously negotiate for what you want in every kind of relationship (whether at work or at home). And from that new place, passionate, erotic love is a breeze.
A Client’s Story
Here’s a story from a client of mine, reporting back years later after receiving the advice to become his own Venus.
“You gave me some of the best advice I ever received. I told you that I was always attracted to those aloof, statuesque, Aquarian types, and they always break my heart, because . . . of course, they’re aloof. And you told me that I need to be more Aquarian—more cool, detached and logical. To become one of those Aquarian-types I was longing for. Nothing in my life has worked quite so magically as that little, really quite simple, piece of advice. Simple for someone who’s not in the middle of it, of course.
Now, I seriously doubt that you ever meant quite the way I took that info and ran with it, but it really worked! After four years of working on it, I met someone who became my girlfriend (not at all aloof, but still exciting to me), and I moved in with her, and we’ve been together for eight years now. That felt like the absolute perfect verification of your advice! I was living my Aquarian side, and it paid off for once.”
Actually, the client was wrong—I really did mean for him to take that advice and run with it the way he did. A client like that, who will make good use of my information, is worth his weight in gold. And I’ll bet his girlfriend knows it.